| Handed him a note with my phone number, he hasn't contacted me |
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| Written by pam | |
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About the guy i was thinking about asking out, Just to make sure we have known each other over a year, and we have talked with each other over the course of that year. Whether it was a good idea or not when i saw him 2 saturdays ago i handed him a note with my number on, suggesting if he fancied a drink sometime to give me a call. Just a drink (not a date) Anyway i never heard from him so i guess i put it down to him not being interested in me for whatever reason. Yes, I would agree that if, you handed your number to him in person and he hasn't responded fast enough then I would have thought he was not interested. But after speaking to my friends they suggested not changing my routine (he works in a pizza place) why should i stop going there just because i get rejected, i can be mature about it and not let it bother me. And just get on with my life. I seriously agree with your friends, I just didn't expect many women would have the guts to even hand a guy a note and then go on to face up to the man, that may or may not have rejected them. It's the best way to do things because you can't go spending your life running away from people and avoiding things you used to enjoy just because you are supposed to be embarrassed. The guts that you show is more likely to impress him, than have any bad effect. I saw him today, first time since, i was initially worried (we women do these things) how he would react when he saw me. But it was ok. He waved at me as he normally does then he held his arms right open (as to initiate a hug) but we were quite a few metres away from one another. (He has never done that before) You don't welcome somebody with open arms, if you don't have some interest in them. This was certainly not a sign of rejection, but maybe a sign of something else. It sounds very italian or french casanova style. I could have sworn he was looking at me while i was eating, staring at me. But then that could have been my own wishful thinking. Yes, he most probably was. Even if he didn't fancy you, he would have still been intrigued by this woman who gave him her phone number, either way he would want to get a sneaky look at you. Please Sam give me your advice, your advice is good, am confused right now If he's not interested as i expect because he hasn't contacted me and he didn't mention the note, why did he act so pleased to see me (arms held wide open to greet me) Yes he could have a girlfriend or may prefer the boys, but wouldn't you mention that. You've hit the nail on the head, that is exactly what I was going to say, he's either gay or he is in a happy relationship. You don't welcome someone with open arms that fancies you, if you don't fancy them. It gives the completely wrong signal and encourages them, men are more likely to completely avoid a woman that fancies them, because it becomes uncomfortable socially. You see Sam i didn't want to waste month on him if it was never going to go anywhere. Better that and finding other things to do like joining the gym. Exactly, I really respect the fact that a woman has taken the initiative like you, and I'm sure he will appreciate it as well. Unfortunately his actions demonstrate that for some reason he can't go for a drink with you. As a result I don't see him being gay, because gay men generally don't resist a friendship or drink with a woman, he is most likely spoken for. Sam what do you suggest i should do. and what do you think of his strange body language. Definitely welcoming you with open arms, not rejection. You just have to keep visiting the cafe, if his relationship becomes less secure, he might be tempted to go for a drink. In the meantime, you're available for other men. |
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