I recently joined a drama group 2wks ago and I really fancy one of the guys. After our first lesson, he bought me drink at a bar (all the thespians go to this particular bar) and we chatted for ages and it seemed like we got on. In the 2nd lesson we chatted and he asked me what kind of guys I was into

That's him assessing his chances and trying to work out if you are compatible. 

and broke of the conversation to talk to another attractive woman but they werent flirting (im not sure|). Anyway we had a good time doing karakoe alongside the other thespians but he seemed a bit distant, however he did give me the eye now and again (but I dont know if that is a friendly glance). Should I forget it or is there a way to get his attention again (without being slutty).

I think things are going according to plan at the moment.  He's spoken to you and seems interested, he gives you glances.  The fact that he's being distant, suggests he's standing back and taking an overview of the situation and seeing if you invite him back in or make any effort with him.  Then he might move back in for more if the signals are positive.  I think you should just continue with the flow of things, let things happen naturally, it's too early to start rushing things, I think things are going well so far.

Reply by ebele123

This is an update from my previous message about the drama class guy. This saturday turned out to be one of the worst saturdays ever, I'll start from the beginning. The hot guy finally called me on friday night (but I missed the call and I called him, we chatted for 10mins), so we could arrange a date for this following thursday(he wanted to take me to a gallery and a bar). Anyway, I went to the saturday class and he was asking me about my day, and complemented me on my performance etc. After that he asked me if I was going for drink with the thespians and I said yes, at the bar he kept on looking at me and initiating conversation. However, there was an older woman within the group and later on when we went to the park, the woman gave him loads of attention and they were getting on really well. After all that, we all decided to go to a club and as usual me and him were dancing but within the hour the older woman and him were kissing passionately for bloody ages (i think he was drunk)and did it right in front of me (I went downstairs because I was soo pissed off).

Gosh that is bad. 

I was clearly upset and my friends told them to leave.

Not quite sure why you friends told them to leave though, they had just as much right as anyone else to be there.  Even if they were doing something that you didn't approve of. 

As they left, they both ignored me, except from the few looks from the guy. All I want to know is why he did this and if possible, what should I do to make him want me.

Well, I think drink had a lot to do with it.  But I reckon she will have detected that you fancy him, so she would have wanted to sweep him away from you.  The fact that he was drunk enabled her to do that much more easily.  And the reason why they did everything in front of you, is more likely to be her doing, because guys generally like to be discreet.  So she probably wanted to rub your nose in it and put you off him, so that you stay away.

You say she is older, if you mean significantly older, then it's more than likely to be just a short term fling between them.  He got drunk one night and wasn't in control of his senses.  She took advantage of that and he would of thought, easy shag going here.  When you next see him, will prove what he really thought of the night.  If he's all jolly, then he's probably enjoying his time with this older woman.  If he's a bit embarrassed, then he might keep a low profile and be slightly sulky.

What you have got to do is completely ignore him and avoid him.  You have got to signify that this sort of the thing, doesn't really impress you.  Because if you go in there and start committing to conversation with him and pretending nothing has happened, you are going to be saying to him that you don't mind this sort of thing happening in the future.  You would be rewarding him for his bad behaviour, so you've got to make him pay and make him make it up to you.  Prove to you, that he really wants you and not some older woman, that takes advantage of him when he's drunk.  That's what you have to make him do, to make him want you, make him chase you to get you back.  If he doesn't chase you, then he wasn't interested enough in you in the first place, so you need to move on to a guy that is more interested in you.

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