I wanted to ask about some things that a girl should pick up on to find out if a guy fancies her.In my particular case I can only judge by my experience of a guy that I like but i'm more confused then clear about what i should pick up upon. well, firstly 1. he holds eyecontact when talking to me and seems to listen to me so i know he is being sincere about it.

This shows a deep intent to take in what's happening in your life.  He wants to be able to use that information to get to know you more and adjust himself to your attitude and interests.  Guys have to mould themselves around a woman they are interested in.  If he doesn't do that, then the woman would be less than interested in him.   

he has also glanced over at me a couple of times when im elsewhere and not particularly attending him but only sometimes.

It shows he's missing you but he's also trying to make sure you haven't got anyone else interested in you buzzing around.  He really wants to be there with you, but can't do that because he will be following you all over the place.

2. he is totally comfortable so he can be quite close when we're around each other at times, he wont move away uncomfortbly and he has no problem with hugs, but i figure thats just him, friendly.

Nope, you only hug people you are keen on.  I don't go round hugging men, even male friends.  I know some that do, but that's usually when they are drunk and they'll hug anything and anyone.  It shows he's comfortable getting close to you and wants you to be comfortable in close proximity to him.

3. he finds it very easy to compliment me and tell me im cool, i think he also has a view of me as a laid back person that he feels pleasant to be around. 4. hes welcoming, he smiles, he makes the effort(even though we're long distance) and i feel he also shows his good side with me. putting this into perspective he does have a girlfriend,

Ah, everything was positive up until you mentioned that big glitch. No wonder he's relaxed, if he's got a girlfriend already and so has nothing to lose by being friendly with other women and drumming up competition for him.

and he is a respectable guy to everyone, he has a caring and accepting quality about him toward people and we are alike but also different in a many ways that may mean i can only be seen as a mate. also he knows i have feelings for him and as things are, i get that he sees me as a mate right now. the real question is can those things point anywhere towards attraction?

Yes, they do point towards attraction.  The problem he's got at the moment, is he has a girlfriend, therefore he has to put in his mind that you are just a friend.  His body language and his talk, points to him being slightly frustrated that it can't be a bit more, so he's leaking that out. 

its hard to make that decision whether this should just be thought of as friendship in the long run or if it should be thought of as growing into something more someday.

At the moment you need to be patient and carry on as you are.  As time goes on, he might feel as though you are a better option than his current girlfriend.  But you need to be patient and give him every reason to believe that, by not pushing and not being impatient. 

what would be your advice, what seems like the appropriate way to look at this.

My advice is in my last paragraph, you need to be patient and be there ready, if he decides you are a better option than his current girlfriend.

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