I work for a news channel and a guy from another bureau got in touch. He knows people that I used to work with. When he came back for Christmas he suggested organising a gathering.

I turned up and as soon as I walked in the room I knew I really liked him. He came over to me and we had a good chat. There was definitely a chemistry and we got on well.

He introduced me to his friends and we all got along.

After a while I decided to go home. I knew that I wanted to see him again. Although because some of his old friends were there I felt that I had stayed long enough. When I went to say goodbye he wasn't in the group. So I said goodbye to the group and then walked through the bar.

I couldn't see him so I presumed that he was outside smoking. I went outside and he wasn't there. I walked to the subway.

When I got out of the subway I had missed calls on my phone. They were from the guy.

I didn't call him back as it was past midnight.

I think he will let you off for that because you may not have known the calls were from him or that your phone had been ringing. 

Over Christmas I left my phone at home. So when I returned he had text me on Christmas Day and mentioned that I vanished and he also wished me a Happy New year.

I knew he only had 5 days at home so perhaps I wouldn't see him.

The day before he was due to go. Another colleague of mine asked if he was interested in going out. On the day he couldn't get to our office. He text me and invited me to join him for dinner (with friends).

He's trying his best to see you again which is a good thing, despite things going wrong, for example you disappearing and not replying to phone calls, he still seems determined.

Anyway, so when I got to the station I called him. He didn't answer. I rang him once more a few minutes later.

I went home feeling a bit silly...

I can imagine, if a guy asks you to go out you would expect him to honour that date and time.

A week later he emailed me. He said sorry about last week. He had problems getting home and was messy from drinks. Then he asked hows life, etc. He also referred to a picture on my facebook profile.

So he's been thinking about you and keeping up-to-date!

I didn't reply back.

It's not a good idea to keep doing that, eventually he will start to think that things are not going right here, time to give up.  He's missed things from you, you've missed things from him. 

A week later he messaged me again. I replied with a brief message.

Again, it seems that he is very keen to stay in touch which is a good thing, most blokes would have given up by now. 

Nothing too indepth. Then 2 weeks later he called my office from overseas. Just to chat! He asked a lot of questions. I ended it because I had to get back to work.

Again this is not wise, if you seem dis-interested eventually he's going to give up, in fact I'm surprised he hasn't given up already.  It's both of you who are missing chances, which I suppose is what's kept in alive so far because you've made mistakes and he's made mistakes.

He is coming back to our office next week. I don't know what to think.

Just be normal with him.  If you avoid him or are cautious with him, he will think he's done something wrong and you are not interested.  Then he will back off and you will think you've done something wrong.  So it's best just to be friendly and treat him normally.

Does he fancy me?

To give you a percentage, I would say there's a 70% chance he fancies you based on what you have told me.  This is on the basis that he's been so persistent in trying to get some contact with you.  You don't get so persistent if you only see someone as a friend. 

Did he feel the chemistry?

It's obvious that the basis for his persistance is the fact that he felt some rapport or chemistry with you on those first few meetings.  Those were key and the basis of him still wanting to get contact with you.  If that hadn't happened or he felt less of a chemistry, I think he would have given up by now.  The other thing to point out is, if you felt the chemistry, then he should have done as well.  When there's a chemistry between two people, both people need to experience it, so if you felt that chemistry, he certainly would have done as well.

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