i have fanceyd this lad for ages but i havent got the courage to ask him out because im a shy person. some of my mates thinks he likes me too he looks at me a lot and. when i have been out with my mates i have seen him and one of them shouted theres the girl ben fanceys but i was with three other girls he has already turned one of them down. so it just leaves me and my other mate please help me lv star

Sam's response

If you don't have the courage to ask him out, then you need to at least have the courage to speak to him or give him a chance to speak to you. Don't think of him as a potential boyfriend just think of him as a potential mate. If you manage to think of him as a mate, this will make you less nervous around him. Just imagine you are speaking with a male friend that you do not fancy.

The conclusion that you can devise from your situation is there is a 50% chance he fancies you and a 50% chance he fancies your other friend.

Don't presume because you are shy that men don't fancy shy women. Some women are shy at first but when you get to know them they open up and are very entertaining.

He may confuse your shyness as meaning you do not fancy him or he may confuse your shyness as you are playing hard to get or do not fancy him. He may confuse your shyness as being someone that is not really interested or noticed him, in which case you may become a challenge to him and that will make you an even more attractive option. He may see your shyness as a potential woman that is an easy target for his charms. There are so many possibilities.

The fact is that both he and you have to make the right moves and right decisions to get together (if it is you that he fancies).

If he looks at you a lot and doesn't look at your other mate as much then it would have to be conclusive that he fancies you (based on the fact that you said he fancies either you or your other mate). But it is your friends interpretation about whether he looks at you a lot, so you will have to rely on their opinion because I am not their to see your situation.