I met this guy at work but I am really not sure if he liked me mainly because he was very arrogant therefore this made me more cautious of whether i need to express my feelings.

Arrogance can demonstrate two things, nervousness and trying to appear confident.  Both of which give the idea that he probably fancies you.  Men know that women like confident women, most men are not confident, yes I really do mean that, most men are not confident.  It's just that some men are better at blagging that their confident than some men.  When you try and act confident as a man, it often comes across as being arrogant.  A lot of women I've met that I fancied had described me as arrogant.  Yet I tell female friends that I know, that a woman called me arrogant and they say.  What?  How long have they known you?  Do they even have a clue of what you are like?  I've also seen many blokes sounding arrogant to women that they are chatting to.  You can see the woman looking uncomfortable and wanting to get away, because they don't like arrogant men.  In a way the nervousness is interlinked with that, because any man that wants to impress a woman, wants to appear confident but deep down he is really nervous and that nervousness comes across to women as arrogance.

First time I saw him I realised he was very attractive and my collegue really fancied him so I just made it like I didnt notice him.

Then we had break together, me and him sat on the same sofa but I sat down first and then he sat on the other end of the sofa.

Very unlikely to be a co-incidence.

Whilst we were sitting there I was really nervous because the atmosphere was really quiet. Then I started to talk to my friends in a really loud voice and then my collegue who fancied him introduced me to him. Once she did, he repeated my name a few times, in such a way to see if he knew me or the fact he was looking at me to check me out.

Then I started to avoid being where he was because I was nervous but he never knew this because I acted like a loud and bubbly person infront of him. I stop coming to breaks when he was there and a few times he would grab my attention and move his head in an intention of saying come down.

He was probably inquistive about this woman that appeared to want to avoid him, yet was a very bubbly person usually.  He probably wants to appear friendly and work his way towards getting to know you.

I did come down but was on the phone he was staring at me and when I would look at him he wud look away.

He wouldn't want to look too obvious or even scare you.

Other times he would try to grab my attention by emphaising jokes to my mates or showing off that he is a bad boy.

One day I had to work directly opposite him and as soon as I moved there he kept on going to the bathroom or for a drink, he just would not stay still.

This suggests nervousness, it's not usually a sign that a guy wants to display in front of a woman he fancies.   That proximity to you was just too much for him at that point in time.  He probably wanted to go to the bathroom to check his hair was ok and his face was ok and his clothes were looking goog.  Did you notice any difference in his appearance when he got back?

Then I made a really big mistake on the phones and all of the workers near me started to laugh but he was laughin but in a way that felt that he was not laughin at me but with them.

I tried to ask what work he was doing but he just gave me minimal responses.

You probably took him by surprise and put him on the spot, he wasn't ready and expecting to speak to you, so he was kind of left not knowing what to say because he wasn't prepared for speaking.

However that afternoon when we were all goin home he spoke to me and tried to make conversation about work but i realised he had been waiting to grab my attention.

This was him making up for the blunder of not speaking too much earlier, he was probably kicking himself for a while afterwards and felt the need to redeem himself.

When I walking home I saw him in his car and whilst he had is window open, music on loud, he and his mate both look at me and gave me the once over.

Music on loud is just anti-social behaviour, you can't really have a conversation with anyone when you have got your music on loud.  It's a young guys way of getting attention and it does get the attention of women, but really loud music does nothing to attract a conversation because you can't hear anybody.  It always makes me cringe when I see young people driving along with music blaring, it just looks so desperate to me, people that are just desperate for attention and can't get it any other way, than to drive around with windows open and music on full volume. 

However that evening I saw him in town and i said hello he said he too but in such a way that he was shocked but didnt care. I was really confused.

Shocked being the ultimate word, he's seen you again in an unexpected circumstance and doesn't really know what to say or do.

A lot workers had left work at the workplace and one of his friends. So there was less of us and then when my hair got messed i put it down and walked towards him because i was going to the bathroom. He was stunned, and I said to him you alrite.

He would have loved the hair down routine, men really do find that sexy.  Again you use the right word "stunned".

Slowly by slowly we started to talk more. I must admit i am very hard to approach because i never give too much away (if any) But he always use to look at me and then look away. and he always used to make himself sound like a bad boy.

However me and him got really close and we would talk about cars, music or anything for ages and loved to sit alone. Even though we never told each other that we need to sit together but he just use to wait for me and I used to wait for him.

We both used to sit on one table or one section alone and we did not sit with the rest of our friends. Everyone kept on saying we should get together or thought we were a couple but i just kept on saying that he was not the right guy for me, even though i knew i was attracted to him.

He used to tell me alot about himself and what he was doing but sometimes it felt that he was over exaggerating.

Exaggerating -> trying to impress you.  Because he thought next to your exciting life, his would seem too boring for you to be interested in him.

At once, he actually started to speak about marriage and that he really wants to get married soon. I replied saying that really you would want to get married at this age? I do not want to get married for a good 5yrs and I said to him I think your a bit young.

Young guys naturally think that women want to get married at a young age and feel as though they need to dispell feelings in a woman that he is only out for sex, so mentioning marriage is his way of saying he has good intentions with you but also make you dream about marriage with him.  There are some young blokes that do dream of marriage but at his age, he's usually going through the period of it would be good to have sex with a few different women.

Also as his parents where originally from Pakistan (as mine) he used to say about going there but scared someone might try to get him engagad. Then I started to tease him saying that your gona get married from there hahaha!!!!

It's a different culture to mine and maybe in Pakistani culture the blokes are more keen to get married at a young age.  I've always heard that the women live in fear of an arranged marriage, I've never before heard of the guy fearing it.  I suppose it works both ways and both the male and the female could end up with a nightmare partner.

I felt like we were really really close but he never gave me his phone number neither did he want to keep in contact. I do not know if it was because I hided my feelins too much and played hard to get.

Most likely, this would have confused him and made him feel as though she does not conclusively fancy me, so I'm not going to take the risk and ask her out.

But sometimes he would sit with everyone or everyone would come sit with us so he would talk to them but i notice him staring at me at glipse but sometimes he would act like he's tired or he s his own world. I felt like he didnt like me and he was just acting to like me because there was no else he could relate to.

I think you were probably giving him mixed signals, so he was giving them back.  The fact that he kept glimpsing at you, was probably a sign of him thinking, she is so nice, if only I had a chance with her, I wish I had the ability to convince her.

But things like when i was on the phone he would look at me or he would talk about girls likin him or sayin that he never had seen me before, like if he was shocked that how he could not have.

He used to always say bye to me and sign me out before we went home. However he never offered me a lift, even though as a pakistani you should never sit in a mans car and his parents were strict. so i didnt know if he did this because he respected me or because he didnt like me.

I think he would have done this because he was scared of what his parents would think.  When parents are strict, you don't want to get on their bad side.  Parents are there for you all your life, women come and go, so it's a good idea to keep on the good side of your parents because they will support you through your bad times and they are the people who you have spent most of your life with and they've cared for you and brought you up.

He used to tell me secrets and embrassin moments. But the last day of work he came up to me and spoke to me and said right i am off and said take care and was acting really wierd,

Like he didn't want to say goodbye to you and like he wished he was brave enough to say or do something.  Like he wished he knew conclusively whether you liked him.

but as he never asked for my number or even say see yeh soon i just said c ya around.

Since that day I never saw him again, but I realised that he was on facebook and after a while i decided to contact him and he sounded very entuastic to talk and asked questions. but the last e-mail he sent i replied and i asked a question and he neve replied. I really do not understand if he likes me or not.

How long has it been?  Was it an awkward question that a guy would not want to answer? 

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