I believe a friend of mine likes me. He is married and so am I and the four of us are friends.

Always much more complicated when there is more than two people involved in the situation. Three people is bad enough, but four people in the equation makes it much more complicated.

However he has recently returned to Turkey for two years and on returning our relationship changed. Before he returned we did not get on that well and argued. Once he returned, things were different. It seems like we are now the best of friends. We have clicked instantly. We can talk about anything and everything. He is always teasing me and holding good eye contact. A couple of my friends, who do not know each other, have noticed that his gaze follows me at times, for example, when I walk out of the room, his eyes follow me out, apparently.

If your friends notice it, it must be something significant and obvious. But to me this is just not conclusive, because a friend can display these traits as well. It needs many more things to re-inforce the idea that he fancies you more than a friend.

I feel an electricity, but I am wondering if I am imagining it, although my friends do agree with me. I am wondering whether he just sees me as a close friend, but what amazes me is how much his attitude to me has changed. After speaking to his wife, confidently, I have discovered that their relationship is not at it's best. On christmas day, he informed his wife of how lovely my presents to him were, but she said that he was not too interested in what she had bought him.

This is simply a sign that things are not going well with his marriage. If he is in a mood with her, then he is likely to say things like this. Equally she is likely to exaggerate that he didn't comment on her presents and only commented on yours because her perception will be that he is totally against anything she does.

I do know that they nearly split up when he first returned, due to different reasons, because he confided in me. I know we are all meant to be friends together here, but this is he/ is he not situation has been driving me mad for weeks! As a man yourself, I hope you can shed some light on his feelings.

I really can't shed any light on this situation. When four people are involved and particularly four friends everyone tends to tread carefully and doesn't give much away, in order not to hurt the feelings of two other people in the equation. If the marriage was really going that bad then you would have thought he would be willing to take some risks and try it on with you. But then if he sees you as a friend, in addition to fancying you, that makes it difficult and if he is friends with your partner that makes it doubly difficult.