There is a man at work who i have feelings for and i am unsure wether his feelings are reciprocated!  i want to give you the full story so you can make a judgement.

when i first met this man i had a boyfriend but i felt as though he fancied me, dont ask me how, just call it intuition!

As i had a boyfriend nothing happened nor did i wish it to i didnt really have feelings for him then,this was around may 2007!

I eventually broke up with my boyfriend in august of last year and moped around for a couple of months as you do after 2 and a half years with someone! Eventually i became my usual smiley self again (i have a sunny disposition!!!)This man started to fancy me again but this time i was told by my colleagues as i was totally unaware, he would talk to me about settling down his drinking, he would help me out with anything i asked, he always used to playfully jump out at me and my colleague said he always hanging around!

i decided to leave this job and we swapped numbers, we texted constanly but he didnt seem to be asking me out so i said (as im dumb) 'are you not interested in asking me out' he said 'its not that im not interested but i am a bit busy with the mortgage advisor and moving house but we will sort something out' he never got back to me because i think i freaked him out by being so forward!!

Not necessarily, you asked at a busy time in his life, if he doesn't get back to you once he's finished this busy time, it maybe because he feels he blew it and the time has passed for him to ask you out now, after all you could have a boyfriend by the time he's got his house move sorted out.  Men like to concentrate on one thing at a time, his priority at that point in time would have to be finding a woman, for him to actually go out with a woman, instead his priority was moving house.  Going out with a woman, requires a lot of his time and money, he won't feel as though he can devote either of those when he is in the middle of a house move.

oops rookie mistake!! we kinda lost contact after that! Any way my new job turned out to be rubbish, so i went back to my old job by then i had accepted that he wasnt going to get back to me and had put him to the back of my mind!! When i saw him on my first day back my spark for him came back and i think maybe his did to, at the end of the conversation he kind of backed away slowly whilst looking at me, sat down and then looked at me again, hes always pleased to see me, makes an obvious effort to keep conversation going,if he sees me on my own he always chats to me and he sits with me on break, he helped me with my work even though he was with his friend (he helped me fill the canteen vending machine)i didnt ask for his help he just started doing it. I linked arms with him once and this progressed to hand holding (would a man do this with any woman?)

Whilst filling the vending maching?  Linked arms and hand holding he would not do if he found the woman unattractive.  But he would do it with women he fancied and sometimes with female friends (but she'd have to be a close female friend that he knew for a long time). 

i was talking to him and i went to leave to get on with my work and he said 'but i like having you around!' so i stayed a bit longer! but most of all it feels like he is attracted to me!!is that silly?

Nope, it's not silly, if you get that feeling, then you are step to being sure about it. 

The only thing that makes me doubt myself is if i text him he always replies instantly and asks questions but seems to stop the conversation after one or two texts!!? why is this?

Text is boring, talking on the phone is boring, he'd much rather keep it short and speak to you in person.  If he says everything on the phone before he's even met you, he'll meet up with you and then think what can I say, I've said everything on the phone already.  Men prefer texts to communicate arrangements to meet up and for practical reasons, not to have a never ending conversation.  He's got other things to do and other things to concentrate on.

does this mean he is not really interested or that he prefers to talk face to face we see each other around 3 times a week, could it be that he doesnt see the point in texting?

Oh, yes, that's the conclusion I came to above before reading this bit of your message. 

do you think he could be attracted to me or does he just know i fancy him?

Well he knows you fancy him, so if he fancies you, then he should be making a move at some point.  You just have to continue to make him enjoy your time together.  I would say at the moment he is seeing you as a friend, but as time goes on, he will be more persuaded to see you as more than a friend.  He maybe just been cautious and assessing you a bit more before asking you out.  Or trying to pick the right time to ask you out.

how can i let him know how i feel should i be chatty, smiley and touchy feely (huggy)?

These are all things you should do, to persuade him to make that final move.  You could even initiate some light conversations about sex, to make him see a more sexual side of you,  but this can be quite a difficult subject to talk comfortably about for some people, so do it slowly and cautiously.

he seems very shy even though he looks like he should be really confident with women!

i am 21 he is 25!!!

An ideal age match.  Older but not too much of an age gap that you have different interests, and the fact he is 25 will mean he is probably more likely to want to settle down. 

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