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theres a guy that i have known for quite a while, but never really liked him
till a few weeks ago. he's a notorious flirt but he seems always to want to be
where i am, like i walk past where he is, and he'll go out of his way (it seems)
to talk, but then he wont speak to me, and then will again. He also remembers
nearly everything i have said. even if its pointless. he touches me alot and
whenever we've had a bit to drink we always end up being together all the time,
but never doing anything. i really want to be with him but i dont know how he
feels or how to go about it...HELP!!!???
Sam's Response
Hi Becky
You say "but then he wont speak to me,
and then will again". This is a standard thing that men do, because men find
that if they act too eager women go off them. So they go hot and cold all the
time to make sure the women fall for them.
You say "He also remembers
nearly everything i have said", he is obviously very interested in what you say
and hence must be very attracted to you if he takes the time to remember even
minor details.
You say "he touches me alot". Again men don't touch women
they don't find attractive.
You say "i really want to be with him, but i
dont know how he feels or how to go about it" I am not sure what circumstances
you meet him in (e.g. work, supermarket). But it sounds as though, you go out
for a drink with him. So there are several ways to go about it
- Pretend you
are a bit drunk (but don't get drunk because you won't remember anything). That
way you can do all sorts like lean on him as you are sitting down or walking
down the street. But if you touch him too much, he might think it is the green
light for sex. If he rejects you, you can just apologise for being a bit
tipsy.
- Throw some hints that you would like to go to a concert or the
cinema. Not obvious hints, just bring it into the conversation "I am thinking
about going to the concert, but none of my friends are available to
go".
I can't really guarantee that the above things will work, because it
depends on the situation you are in and depends on your execution at the time,
as well as many other factors.
You just have to make yourself
approachable without looking desperate and hopefully he will then fall for
you.
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