You helped with a previous guy who I have since forgotten about. Ok so I met this guy last Thursday at a friends small gathering after work. He is a friend of my friend.

He was getting ready to leave but after my arrival decided to stay. He immediately asked if I wanted a drink and there was no hesitation on paying b/c he already had his card out for the waitress. We ended up talking for 30 min and he would touch me every so often.

That's very positive it seems you gave him a good reason to stay and he wanted to make sure you noticed him straight away. 

I wasn't sure I was attracted physically but he is an aussie and I liked the accent and wit.

During the conversation he made a remark as to where he lived (in our city) and then said I have a reason to come there now. I was a bit standoffish then b/c I barely knew him.

Man mouth, he's saying what he's thinking, but shouldn't really have let it slip out of his mouth, because this sort of comment early on, is always going to make a woman cautious.  However it shows clearly that he likes you, to let that comment slip out. 

He kissed me on the cheek on the way out, but he didn't ask for my contact but said hopefully he would see me if I'm hanging out with a mutual friend.

Well, he probably didn't want to be too pushy, particularly if he detected you were uncomfortable with his previous comment.

Well, I realized that perhaps my behavior led him not to ask for my contact and I saw him on my friend's facebook page, so I sent him a quick question - saying is that you, I think I met you. He responded in a short while with a longer response and ended it with: "I really enjoyed meeting you and it was a shame that I had to rush off while we were still talking. I was chatting to [girl he works with who knows me] yesterday and told her that I'd met you - she was amazed, and said that you'd had a party last weekend. Anyhow, perhaps we can meet again...?"

He is very keen on you, it's clear just from that message.  And he gave you a question to signify he wanted you to reply.  And that questions clearly indicated he wanted to see you again, there's interest there. 

He also then added me as a friend so he can see my profile and vice versa (takes a little mystery out of it in my opinion;).

Typical woman thinking!   But hey, you can't stop a woman from thinking like a woman. 

I took a little over a day to respond to that msg - b/c i'm still not sure on my attraction but I do really like his personality. And I did say "sure let's meet. Sounds good. Don't know what your schedule is like?". I sent it Sunday. It doesn't appear he has been online recently, but he initially responded so quickly (a couple of hours).

He could be busy, he could be just waiting to respond back because you took over a day to respond to him.

What do you think of this scenario? his interest? He answered the initial email within 2 hours and so this is the 3rd day now since my response to him.

I think he's very interested, but I think he will respond when he is ready to meet up with you, probably within a few days before the day he plans to meet. 

Reply by Nathalie 21.05.08

In case it matters - he is 3 years older than me. I just turned 31 this week. He was trying to guess my age and I think guessed a year younger and said oh you are a young one.

Nothing significant here.  By discussing age though, it demonstrates that he is weighing up his chances of getting with you and weighing up whether you are right for him.   So again, it signifies he is interested in you.

Reply by Nathalie 27.05.08

I actually completely agree with you, but I am still a bit baffled by his behavior or non-response still.

Strangely, I received a call from the common friend of ours (the one who had the party we met at) on Thursday last week and she mentioned that she thinks her friend (this aussie guy) really likes me.

Well there you have it, even your friends have noticed it.  That makes it much more conclusive. 

I didn't say so much except we had communicated a little since then and he added me on facebook. I also just said I'm open-minded.

He hasn't sent me a msg yet on my reponse back to him saying it sounds good to meet up. We'll see but honestly I'm not used to a situation where it seems quite clear (and a friend actually confirmed it), yet he takes no action. . . .wow.

He will when he's ready to go out.   It could be that he's got too much on at the moment.  And he needs time to give you his undivided attention, when he's not focusing on other things. 

Reply by Nathalie 29.05.08

Ok - he responded, like you said.

finally. He remarked on my new profile pic (called new one "girl next door" vs. previous "glam") and asked about my trip over our recent past long weekend (monday was a day off here). He also asked how my schedule looks and said his is improving. Moving in the right direction? 

Definitely he sees himself meeting you within the next few days and that's why he's emailed you. 

Hmm. . . I will respond, but take my sweet time too. . . .

I don't think this is a particularly good idea.  Usually when guys message about meeting up, it's because they've got something planned in the next few days.  If you then take forever to reply back, that opportunity goes and then he thinks I don't know whether I'm available next weekend.  So he thinks fuck it, I'll just reply shortly before next weekend and ask her out the following weekend instead and hope that you reply back sooner next time. Whilst it's probably not wise to reply within a few minutes, it certainly doesn't mean you shouldn't reply within a few hours.

I'll think of a good response - friendly but not taking lead on meeting up.

You need to answer that question about your schedule, give him a clear indication of when you are available, then he can take the lead.  If you avoid the question about your schedule, then he'll simply think you are "a messer", and you are not really serious about meeting up, you are just playing mind games with him. 

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