Well, why else would he exchange numbers and continue contact with you!  And if other people notice then really you should take what they say seriously because they have an overview of the situation, rather than you, who is in the middle of the situation.

we see each other everyday he calls me every minute and we have even little secrets that even my girls dont know about. He has told me personal problems and has specifically said he couldnt even talk about this with some of his closest friends. he has a heart of gold and is really really sweet. Although originally i had a problem with his age,he has commented that i am not that much older than him .

If you made that comment, then you will put him off from asking you out.  He'll just think what's the point you only see him as a friend and he doesn't want to lose that friend by asking you out.  He will think the ball is in your court because you made age an issue.

One evening we had started drinking and laughing and joking and he told me he seen me as a mother,sister friend and a girlfriend.

Ultimately a guy wants a woman that makes him happy and brings out the best in him.  A woman who motivates and nurtures him to do good things.  If you make a guy happy and nurture him, have the perfect personality, then he will see you as a friend.  If you have all those attributes and make him feel sexy about you and about himself as well, then he will see you as a girlfriend.  So ultimately if he only sees you as a friend at the moment, all you need to do is make yourself more sexy and make him feel sexy about himself.  So ultimately what I'm saying is the difference between friends and girlfriends is sex.  So to be more of a girlfriend you need to cover the things that are involved in being a friend but in addition to that cover the sex bit as well.  That doesn't mean having sex with him, it can mean flirting, it can mean wearing clothes that emphasize your body, it can mean touching, that's what can make guys feel sexy about a woman.

he then came into the bathroom when i was getting ready for bed and kissed me. a week later he told me he did not want to give me the wrong idea.

That could spell one of two things, he thinks you don't fancy him, so is dumbing down his interest in you.  After all, you've told him he is too old and he doesn't want to lose you as a friend.  Or he really isn't that interested in you and doesn't want to give you the wrong idea. I think he's more likely to be dumbing down, because nothing happened after that, so he presumed you weren't interested.

i backed off and he still calls every minute and collects me takes me for dinner we do everything. A friend told me i should tell him i am deeply in love with him. i plan to take him for dinner to tell him. Do you think this is a good idea?

It's a bit early to say that you love him.  Using the word love is going to scare the wits out of even a guy that fancies you.  If you want an answer from him, positive or negative rather than waiting around for him to make a move, then you do need to say something.  It's risky but at least you won't spend the next few years wondering.  Just say to him, I've begun to like you as more than a friend, what do you think of that?  Or I fancy being your girlfriend what do you think? Then you should get the truth out of him.  If it's negative be prepared to say, well lets just be friends then.

Rather than saying you have fallen deeply in love with him, that's a bit too serious to throw at a guy. Because really imagine a guy walked up to you on the street, chatted to you for a bit and said "I'm deeply in love with you", what would you think?  You would be seriously scared.  So really take one step at a time, going out with each other is something you do, before telling someone you are deeply in love with them.

Do you think he fancies me?

Well it sounds as though you have a great friendship which is part of the element of being a girlfriend.  It's just a case of whether you have the sexual and flirty side that entices him to make you into a girfriend potential.  With a nickname like "Spread Your Legs", I would imagine you are pretty confident at the flirting side of things. And the fact that he has kissed you on the lips, suggests to me he wants to make you think of him more than friendship.  So yes, I would say he more than likely does fancy you.

How do i go about winning this guy over he is a one in a million and i am tired of being a player. I know any girl that has this boy is the most luckiest girl in the world