I have another for you. Btw - I am actually going on other dates but the ones that like me lately I don't feel the same etc.  Anyway let me know your thoughts on this guy/situation.

During July 4th weekend, I went to a small island with a friend. On way back to the main island and in a small airport, I met a guy who actually lives in my city too. Small world as he has even interviewed at my company before. He works in the financial industry in NY (which has taken quite a beating) and lost his job last year.

Yes, it looks like the financial industry is going to be on a downward spiral for about the next two years, doesn't it? I actually predicted it at the beginning of 2007 on my other blog.

He was in between jobs and was going to start his new job in about 10 days (started this past Monday – July 14th). He asked for my contact after chatting for a while because originally my friend and I were not on same flights and so I was going to share a taxi with this guy when I got back to the main island.

In the end this wasn't necessary because my friend and I were on same flight. When he landed, he sent me a text when he arrived back to main city (larger island) and said I should give him a call if I wanted to get a drink that evening. We both were leaving the next day. In the end we traded calls/texts and when I was out I got back to him around 11pm. It turned out his flight was 6am so he said it would not make sense but we could see each other anyway because we are in same town. I sent him a msg last wed and asked how he was etc. and got a nice message back. He had mentioned a wedding and he was going to travel for it the next day. He also mentioned that he would head to a town 1 hour away the day before (this past Sunday) for the start of his job.  The company’s HQ is there so when he starts, he is there.  He also then asked me for email address. He is training in a close by city for the beginning of the new job and then coming back to work here.  I think the training is 1-2 months long but I would imagine he might be coming back on weekends since it isn’t far and he still lives in NY.

Since you are a guy, what do you think?

I think this guy is keen to see you again because of his regular contact with you.  As a result, I think things are looking positive and he wants to get to know you more to see if you are right for him. 

Is it too much with a new job etc.?

In this case, I don't see the job as a particularly big barrier, as long as he sees you every now and then and keeps in regular contact.  You are only just getting to know each other, so you are not in a full scale relationship yet.  So some brief meetings every now and then will do your relationship good, in the early stages.  It's when it starts to get serious that you should worry about distance. 

How do you see it?

Exactly as above, I see things going positively at the moment, you just need to meet with each other and get to know each other a bit better.

Reply by Nathalie 20.07.08

I think I will put him on backburner. After he asked for my email address, I didn't hear from him this week. He started the new job this past Monday July 14th btw.  Hopefully I do end up hearing from him soon, but a little over a week has now passed since he asked for my email so. . .

It's fair enough putting him on the backburner, but starting a new job is something big for a bloke.  He'll want to focus on his job for a few weeks and get to know his colleagues.  He won't want to meet up with you due to lack of time and he wouldn't be able to devote himself to you because he'll have other things on his mind.  So really expect him to take a while before he settles down and contacts you.