i am in a dilemna.i am a married woman and have a 2 yrs daughter.couple of months ago i was alone with my best friend.he is my husbands friend aswell.all of a sudden we huged each other and were about to kiss....but i refused.but we kept on hugging each other for nearly an hour.that day my friend said that we have to control ourself a lot and think with our mind and not heart.he stopped to call me.when i called him we talked for hours.i asked him to meet me....he always said yes but then at the last minute made some excuse.

He knows it's not really right and is getting nervous about it at last moment.  On the spur of the moment he agrees to it, but if he has time to think about it logically, he knows it's a bad idea, messing around with his friends wife.  He knows whats going to happen is he has sex with you, then ends up having a bust up with his friend.  Then you are left without a husband and without him, because he's probably more interested in the sexual element with you.

later on he stopped to answer my calls.now he does answer my calls but again the same story.he asked me out for coffee...but thyen again postponed the programme and then the day we had to meet,his phone was off all day.

He really doesn't want to do it, on the spur of the moment he arranges these things.  Then his conscience sets in, as soon as he has time to think about it. 

later on in the night when i called him he said that he isnt well.i just told him that if has a problem i will never call him now and that i dont need this attitude all the time and that this is just not acceptable to me.he said that he will call me back to which i just hung up the phone.he hasnt called me back nor did i call him.

He won't call you back if you've got like that with him.  As soon as a woman gets like that before even being in a relationship with him, he just thinks, gosh imagine what it would be like if I was in a relationship with her.  He wants a hassle free relationship with you or the minimum of hassle.  Plus if you hung up on him, he would take that as meaning you didn't want him to phone back.

i just dont know if he really like me and what exactly he is trying to do.

I think he's very tempted for the affection and particularly the sex, his best friends wife can provide.  It will be an exciting affair to have and you would hopefully be discreet and not let your husband know.  But the truth is as soon as he comes to his senses he knows it will be bad news for you and bad news for him, if he has an affair and sex with you.  I think in truth he probably wants the sex and the relationship with you, but he knows when his sensible mind kicks in it is guaranteed to be a disaster of a relationship.

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