I recently split up with my boyfriend and met a guy on a night out who knew my ex boyfriend. We were chatting and getting a long really well all night and he initiated kissing which then lasted the rest of the night. When i left the club he offered to make sure i got home safe, then asked if i wanted his mobile number.

He wants to stay in contact, but this is on the basis of a drunken night out.  Anyone who spends most of the night kissing a lady is going to want her mobile or to give his mobile.  In his case, he didn't want to creep you out and ask for your mobile, so he give you his instead.  It also means you can make the decision about whether you are interested in texting him, leaving him without the thought of saying should I text her or should I not, when should I text her and what should I start off saying.  If you didn't bother texting then he knows you weren't that bothered about him.

The problem with nights out is that alcohol is usually involved and you meet each other in the dark.  It's not a good basis of meeting someone who you can have a long term relationship with, it's more an environment to meet someone to have a casual relationship with.  So it's more likely that you can phone him expecting something casual, but don't phone him expecting a relationship.

In my opinion kissing on the first night of meeting someone is just too soon.  You will see in my forums a step by step guide to a relationship, if you rush through those steps and skip steps and get intimate too soon, it's difficult to go back and take the proper steps of getting to know the person.  You are too busy thinking about kissing them and thinking about having sex with them to be able to think of getting to know them.  Again it's the whole night out and alcohol experience which breeds this sort of short term casual relationship.

I text him and after some flirty texts he didnt reply.

If he doesn't respond to flirty, that's really bad, not only does not want the relationship but he's throwing away the chance to get flirty with you, so that kind of rules out any motivation to lead you towards sex either.  Or maybe he has another woman up his sleeve, who he's working on at the moment, and you are down his list, so he'll come back to you at some other point.   

I then text him a few days later asking if he was out that night, he replied with it was a shame because he wasn't. I got a bit impatient and asked him to go out for a drink with me a few days later and he text back saying he would like to but feels bad on my ex.

Bulls**t, your ex is called "Ex" for a reason, what a pathetic excuse.  He's just not that interested in you, now he's sober.  He might be in touch again, if he's bored and hasn't got a better offer, but really he's not motivated enough to go out with you, so I would move on before he messes about with you even more.

few hours later i get a text asking if i wanted to go to his bands gig that weekend to come and see him.

He's started to get thinking now, maybe I might want a shag at the weekend and she seems a little keen, so she might be putty in my hands and now I've got her chasing me, she won't say no, to a shag because she'll be keen to hold onto me and do anything I want her to.

i dont understand him does he like me, what should i do because i really like him

Say, no and find someone else, before he shags you and gets as many shags out of you he can, before ditching you.  He's not keen enough to have a relationship with you! 

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