I am a bit confused right now and wa wondering if you can help on this situation... i met this guy online  and we have dating for about 8 months now, we did chat a lot on msn and and me being a bit hard to cash, he was really patient with me  and we met several times and we got intimate after our sixth date that would be about month later we first met, he always told me he was up for us to be a couple cause we did really get along i could tell he was hooked by the way he always looked at me he act all considerate and gentle and kind when around me, he knew my place already but when he invited me to his i hardly made it, maybe i was having second thoughts about him dont know why...

Maybe it's your sixth sense! 

but after we got intimate before then we have kissed a lot, he went and check on me the website i found out that i was online the day before we got intimate and the passion was so intense...as i told i have not been on there  for ages..he then decided that he is not ready for relationship anymore that we should stay friends  , but i try to convince him otherwise, we did see twice after and got intimate again then he decided to call it off completely,

He was using you for sex, but felt guilty afterwards. 

now i found that i am madly in love with him and he does not text but he reply to my texts for now but with distance, but i ask to phne me lasr week which he did we spoke for about  hours, and i told him i loved him but he kept saying that i should forget him but i feel that he did not sound to sure,

I would say from what you've said, he is pretty sure, he just doesn't want to discuss it anymore, he wants you to move on, so he can move on. 

can you tell me how to get him back please anyway would be a way it hurt so much to see him this distant to me..

Just based on what you said, I don't see any hope of getting him back, I think you need to move on.  The guy obviously doesn't fancy you and never really has definitively.  Sure he might have shown you some affection to see where it lead early on and test out whether you were right for him.  To be truthful a guy will tell a woman anything she wants to hear to help a relationship progress.  Really just by his actions now, I think you'd be wasting your time and prolonging your agony, by carrying on trying to get back with him.  What would happen then, would be he would keep using you for sex, because he knows he has you hooked, and you would be left with a guy that you had casual sex with occassionally.  Meanwhile you will be meeting perfectly decent blokes that could be potential for you, but ruling them out because your mind is set on this guy, so basically you are just delaying yourself from finding a perfectly decent bloke. 

I think you worked your way into a hole from the beginning, as soon as a woman plays hard to get or as you describe it "hard to catch", you demonstrate to him you are not that keen on him or you are a ditherer.  He then either gives up and moves on, or you become an object that is a challenge to him.  The problem is once he's acheived that challenge he will want to move on.  Because you were less than nice to him in the first place, that's what he'll ultimately remember a woman that wasn't that keen on him to start with, now he's convinced you and the challenge is over, he can move on until he finds a woman that is keen on him from the start and wants to move at the same pace as him from the start.

First impressions last and even if he's going out with you for a while after that, he will still remember back to those early days when you were playing hard to get and making it difficult for him.  Saying that he's probably spent plenty of time with you since as well, and come to the conclusion that you weren't right for him.  When a guy comes to that conclusion and there was nothing significant there in the first place, then you will find it close to impossible to convince him otherwise.  My opinion is to move on and find someone that feels the same way about you, rather than wasting precious time on someone that you are going to have to spend the next 10 years convincing.

In a way he was probably running away because he saw you were getting attached to him and he wouldn't want to hurt you in a big way.  So once he saw you were getting serious about him, he knew it was time to finish you before you got even more attached.