I really need some advice, I'm a 42 year old woman, and there's this bloke i like at work, we've worked together now for a year and a half.

The thing is at christmas we all went out after work, and had a really good time, anyway to cut a long story short we ended up kissing, and it was obvious we both really enjoyed it.

The thing is when we both went back into work we just blanked each other, like nothing had happened, I was dying to say something but felt a bit embarrassed, he just didn't look at me, I think he felt the same way, as you could say he's pretty shy.

Was alcohol at play here.  If alcohol was involved then he could have two thoughts in his mind.  Gosh, I don't fancy her, I shouldn't have done that.  Or gosh I really like her but I think she just did it because she was drunk and now she'll probably want to avoid me because of the embarrassment.  How did the night finish off, if things finished off uncomfortable then it is more likely that he thought you made a mistake.  If it ended up fairly well, then there's a chance that the alcohol made him do it, but he isn't too interested in you when he is sober.

The thing is, I really like him, for months now, we've just kept glancing at each other,(he looks at me alot when he thinks i'm not looking) sometimes we speak, sometimes we don't, but there's definitely something there.(we've never mentioned that night).

God i feel like a lovestruck teenager, not a 40 year old divorcee, but i really would appreciate any advice you could give me, as I've got to see him everyday and it's really getting to me.

He maybe thinking that you are avoiding him and that is why he's avoiding you.  So you need to get him to be comfortable around you again.  You need to build up the friendship and get chatting to each other, build up the closeness and start from scratch with your relationship.  I can't tell you whether he really fancied you because alcohol was probably involved.  But I can tell you to start showing that you are happy with him talking to you and being around you.  I've got to admit, this is more the actions of a bloke that regrets what he did.

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