I mailed you before about a co worker I like and I have a few questions I'd like your opinion on.  I still see this guy some times but only ever in work. When we talk now I always have to talk to him first but when I do he lights up. Every time I see him he blushes and has a big smile on his face even before I say a word to him.Last week at work he winked at me, smiled but did'nt talk to me, he just ran past me smiling..Why?

He likes you so much, that he's so nervous and can't approach you because he's so nervous.  So instead he signals to you that he is friendly and hopes you will come to him and start a conversation.  So the fact that he lights up, shows that he really is happy to see you, the fact that he blushes suggests he fancies you and is nervous about it, the big smile is because he doesn't know what to say but wants to signal he is friendly.  Guys find it difficult to figure out what to say and when to say it, they like a woman to take the initiative and start a conversation going.  Shy guys have serious problems with this, in that they go totally numb everytime they see the woman of their dreams, almost like frozen and dumbstruck. 

His friend who I never really talk to asked me so many questions last week at work, from what time I get up, to what I do in my spare time, where I go socially etc..Could he be trying to find out for the guy I like?

Yes, but he could even be chatting you up himself. 

Lastly this is the most confusing one that I don't understand, My boss really likes me, some people tease me about it. (he about 60)but the only time the guy I like approaches me is to say sarcasticly "Can't talk to you now your husband is there" I keep say my boss is just being nice and friendly etc.

He's trying to have a joke with you, but he's also probably scared that his boss is the competition and if he's seen with you, then he'll be ruled out of promotions or even get pushed out of working there by his boss. 

It's like he gets mad over him talking to me even though he old and the guy I like knows I have no interest in my boss or anything like that.

He's jealous and because your boss is a person of power, he probably thinks you are attracted to him because of that.

he acts like he jealous but I don't know, can't figure it out why it seems to bother him so much considering I talk to loads of young people. Any idea?

He's jealous, that your boss can get on well with you, but he's also trying to make a joke out of it. 

I def think the guy I like likes me back. When we do talk he holds eye contact for so long, always smiles, blushes, body language is very good, and when he comes into work he looks straight to where I usually am to see if I'm there.

Yep, he really does fancy you.  But you have to try and relax him a bit, because he obviously worships you too much and is thinking "no, she won't fancy me". 

He hangs around some times outside aswell if he finishes work first but then says nothing.

It's a hint and he wants you to say something to him. 

Don't think he has much experience with woman, he works there for years and no one has ever seen him with a girl. He about 30.

Yep, so he's not experienced with women and can't really believe that a woman like you will fancy him.  So you need to reassure him, that you enjoy spending time with him, give him some confidence and he will treasure you for all that.  Keep making him blush and keep talking to him occasionally.  The best way to take away someone's phobia is to expose them to the person or thing that is causing the phobia.  He's not necessarily nervous in other areas of his life, he might just be socially inept and not good with women as a result of that, you may find he is quite confident with other things in his life.  What I do know, is he will seriously respect you if you crack his shell.  It's just a bit of a challenge for you to do that.  This just reminds me of my favourite posting ever (you will see a link to that down the left hand side "Sam's Favourite Article").

No he def not gay ha. Really love your take on this, you're always spot on with advice

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