My boyfriend broke with me 4 months ago. He was what you would call emotionally unavailable. He won't talk to me and that's fine, but he has a book that belongs to me. I needed the book because someone was interested in purchasing for class. I gave him a deadline and he still has not returned it. It seems as if he doesn't want to give it back or he's trying to hurt me. He loan me a Amer. Lit book, I didn't need it so I gave it back by putting it in his inter office mailbox. I'm not angry with him, just confused and a little hurt.

When guys stop going out with women because it was going really badly, he wants to avoid you wherever possible.  Have you given him clear instructions and stated how much you need the book back?  Give him some options and message him this "I really need that book that I gave you because one of my friends wants it.  Please could you return it by putting it in my inter office mailbox or here is my address or you can give it to one of my friends". 

You shouldn't be hurt over the book, but maybe should be hurt that the relationship didn't work out.  It's maybe that he doesn't want contact with you, but equally it maybe because he is busy at the moment or hasn't remembered to return your book.  When he was going out with you, you were probably high up his list of priorities, now you are not going out with him, you won't be in his high list of priorities and therefore he might not find it easy to remember to find the book, remember to take it with him and remember to place it in you inter office mailbox, that's three things he needs to remember to do.

Once you send that message, give him a week and then remind him again and keep reminding him until he gives it back. 

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