| How can I make him fancy me, considering I am shy |
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| Written by hoping4eva | |
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There is this guy i fancy, and he knows that i fancy him but he fancies some one else. We are good friends and he said he didnt see me as anything more than that. But as much as ive tried i just cant forget about him, how can i make him fancy me, considering im quite shy!
You seem to hint that this guy is not that interested in you at the moment. The best tactic to start off with, is to give him the impression that you don't fancy him. This produces the feeling that he needs to convince you that he is attractive. So at first don't show any signs that you fancy him and maybe hint at fancying someone else. One good thing to ask is to tell him about this guy you met the other day (an imaginary guy) and ask him for some advice about how to get with him. Indicate to him that you see him as a good friend and would welcome his advice. This will stir up some jealousy in him, because you see this other guy in a sexual sort of way and you see him as just a good friend. I know your quite shy but you have to get rid of that shyness to stand any chance with most men. If you continue to be shy, you will continue to fail to build up a rapport with any guys, and so will have reduced chances of finding a guy. After this initial stage of making him feel like friends, you have got to get him to think of you in a sexual sort of way, instead of just a friend. Eventually start talking to him about sexual stuff again from a friend point of view (just to emphasize he's not going to get any from you). Once you start to get to this stage you should start to awaken his desires (maybe his desires for sex but at least you have got him to think of you as more than a friend). After this you should start some light flirting with him. Just verbal flirting at first. Then move onto touchy flirty. Though if you are close friends you may feel you can move onto touching earlier, indeed light and accidental looking touching might in itself work and make him take notice of you (but this is a more risky way to advance things early on).? When you start flirting and touching him, he will start to convince himself that he has persuaded you that he is not just a friend and you want to move to more than that. One of the things you have to be careful of though, is avoid getting too sexual, too soon, otherwise he might want to have sex before you are ready. Hopefully you can both then negotiate a date with each other. This is all going to take time, and it's important that you both go through these stages at the same pace. Too much flirting, too soon is a mistake and too much sexual advances from him, too soon is going to scare you off. So it's important that you both mirror each other through the flirting and sexual stages. All this should sound like fun to you, so go ahead and give the various things a go. |
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