I have just read your answer to your latest article. What you said intrigued me, the bit about men not wanting to admit or show they are scared of something. This got me thinking because the man I fancy openly revealed to me that he is frightened of ghosts. What do you think about this? I won't go into all the details but I know he really fancies me and displays all the signs through body language and veiled statements. I have written to you before about it and you confirmed it.

He's a bit of a slow mover, isn't he? 

The fact that he admitted he is scared of ghosts suggests several things.  First of all he trusts you because he knows you well.  Men don't disclose their fears to people they hardly know and trust, because it means those people could use those fears against him.  Secondly by admitting it now, he knows he's got to know you enough, for it to be a fairly irrelevant phobia, that won't stop you either being friends with him or more.  If he'd revealed this in the first few days of meeting you, you would have probably thought, what a wimp.  Now he's revealed it after several years of knowing you, you are probably less likely to think anything particularly negative about his phobia and if you do, you know loads of more positive things about him, that will outweigh any phobia of ghosts. 

So, no sneaking up behind him with a white blanket over your head, making ghosty noises!  Well you can if you want, it may be a good laugh, if he has that sort of sense of humour.

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