I am 34 years old, but as I am unmarried and childless I am still quite young at heart and have been told I look young for my age.  Men tend to find me more attractive than average and I am never short of male attention.  I have had short and long-term relationships with men up to 5 years younger than me and have never been out with a man my own age or older than myself. 

Gosh, you must look younger than you are, not many men like to go out with older women, but you seem to have found a younger guy everytime.

Recently I met an attractive guy at a party who I thought looked about 27.  I thought he would think I was too old for him but he really came onto me and begged me for a date so I agreed and we went out a few times before ending up in bed together.  I wasn't about to get serious with him because of the age-gap, but he seemed to be very interested in me and asked me out several times after that and we started seeing each other regularly. I like him a lot.  He never once asked my age so eventually I brought up the subject by asking him his age.  To my astonishment he told me he was 24! 

Ouch, well you should be proud that you still look youthful enough to attract 24 year olds.  And if you didn't get the hint he was using you for sex but is serious about a relationship, then even better. 

When he asked my age I told him to guess and he said about 27!!  I know this is silly, but I was too embarrassed to reveal the truth to him, so I told him that I was 30.  

Oh no, I don't believe you did that, very very naughty.  You even brought up the conversation in the first place, you should have completely avoided the subject and then you wouldn't have had to lie.

He looked really surprised and nervous when i said that and told me i was lying, as I couldn't be so old!!!

He might have just been saying that in a flattering way, or even he may be one of a few guys that actually like older women and he thought you were actually older than 30.  But a guy always comes out with that routine, it's drilled into him, you always say a woman looks younger than she actually is, otherwise you'll get a serious bashing off her. 

So I just laughed and made a joke about how a woman doesn't reveal her age and quickly changed the subject.  I really feel that we have a connection and we get along so well even though there is a ten year age difference, but now i feel like our relationship is doomed as I will either have to live a lie until he discovers the truth and dumps me, or i will have to come clean and have him dump me.  In your opinion, if i tell him the truth now, we've been together for 2 months, what do you think his reaction will be?

Extreme shock but he might try to hide it!  You are really in a no win situation now, because you've lied.  If you don't tell him, the longer you leave it, the bigger the shock and the bigger the lie will be.  If you do tell him he has two things to deal with, the fact you lied and the fact that you are 10 years older than him.  So really there's a no win situation.  You could say if you leave it longer, then he'll have more time to get attached to you so less likely to give you the boot, but then if you leave it too long he will completely feel betrayed and you will spend your time feeling guilty that you haven't told him the truth yet.  I think it's up to you to weigh up those options.

Maybe you could get some advice off other women in my new forum .