My Husband and i are haveing some hard times right now and when I say I love you I get the word DIDO what does that meen why cant he just say I LOVE YOU TO HONEY I need that right now.

Well DIDO or DITTO is meant to mean I feel the same.  But the fact that he says it instead of I love you suggests one of several things, he's being complacent, lazy or doesn't really feel as though he has the conviction to say it.  Men just don't see as much value in these words as women do,  those words to most men are just words, but to women they mean a lot more.  A man doesn't understand how much they mean to a woman or why women constantly go on about them.  In most guys opinion if he is married to you and still with you, then it's pretty damn obvious he loves you, he doesn't see the reason to be corny and constantly say I love you.  So, really I think he's been complacent and thinking why the hell do I need to say these words.

He has a good friend at work that is a femail and he talks to her alot I am a little hurt by this because I think he should confide in me am I asking too much we have only been maried for almost 3 years and I want things to stay good do you have advice for me?

First of all, I have about thirty to fourty female friends at work, I'm still single and really I only fancy one of them.  The one that I do fancy, I don't really confide in because I fancy her,  I instead confide in the ones that I don't fancy.  Women can just be friends, so you need to see further than that before you know that he is interested in a woman.  You need to see some flirting and even that can't be total proof.  Now that you are married he really should be confiding in you, men do tend to confide in women once they have actually been in a relationship for more than a year or so.  Of course there are still things that men need to discuss with friends and not their wives, including if their partner is being a pain and they need some advice about it from other people.

So what can you do?  The only thing you can do is make sure he enjoys his time with you.  Make sure he feels appreciated and loved by you, make sure you praise him for the good things he does and don't over emphasize all the bad things he does.  Don't hit him with loads of negative things, you should let him know if you are not happy with something but don't grind him down by going on about negative things constantly, because he will then think this relationship is no fun anymore.  If a guy feels as though he is not appreciated, his self confidence will fall and he'll going looking for other women to boost that self confidence and make him feel good and make him feel like a man again, so he needs to know you appreciate the positive things about him (without drowning him in positive things too).  You just basically need to make sure you have a good time with him and make sure you do exciting and new things when you have sex.

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