| When men get angry do they get over it hold on to the anger or does it depend on the person |
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| Written by mistyrose | |
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i had a failing out my male friend i thought he was ignoring and emailed and i swore at him etc now he give his reason as why he could contact me cause he cellfone wasnt working, so hes really angry and didnt want to be friends any more , hes really angry! do u think he will get over it and want to be friends again? i thing cant understand why he didnt tell me he had phone problem. If his cellphone was broken would he have been able to get your number off it, or was it some other problem with his cellphone? Plus when someones phone is broken do they have the time and/or the money to let everyone on their phone list know it’s broken? I think you need to give a guy the benefit of the doubt about this and indeed is it really necessary to swear at a guy simply because he hasn’t replied to some emails (it depends on how important they were).
when men get angry do they get over it hold on to the anger or does it depend on the person ,ive been friends for about 2 years . and i dont want for the friendship to end . ive apologised by text and email as he wont talk to me, its it possible to be friends again?
Yes, it’s always possible to be friends again. It just depends how much your were friends before this happened. If he hardly knew you or you weren’t long term friends, then he’d be less likely to forgive you. He will be particularly annoyed if you continue to harass him with loads of texts and emails. I think now is the time to relax on the texts and emails and only respond to ones that he sends for a while, rather than continuing to bombard him. That way you will find out whether he really values you as a friend. I somehow think if you've been friends for two years, then he will forgive and forget with time, you just need to keep your cool for now and let him relax a bit. Don't turn into a pyscho that requires immediate response to every message.
Reply by mistyrose 28.06.10
i wrote previously bout my male friend being angry with me cause i swore at him cause he wasnt contacting me and his reason was his cellphone wasnt working. now he has answered my emails but told me hed ring last thursday to talk it out,now he says his phone still isnt working, if he wanted to he could see me as he knows where i live and we work near each other 2, so theres no reason why he cant see me, am i wasting my time wanting for him to contact me , should i just forget him and get on with my life. Ps were not dating only friends , i feel like he not that serious bout working it out what do u think ? he has also said he hates confrontations.also the longer he takes to contact me the less comfortable i feel bout seeing him again.
I think you should forget about him and get on with your life. You need to treat him like a child and reward good behaviour and ignore bad behaviour. The only way he is going to behave well, is if you ignore him when he’s not behaving well and be positive when he is going well. For now he’s avoiding contact with you, therefore you should avoid contact with him. The ball is in his court, because it’s him that’s messing you about. In my opinion, you can give him the benefit of the doubt for the first instance, but now it’s dragging on and you can no longer give him the benefit of the doubt anymore. As you say, there’s plenty of opportunity to be in contact with you, if he really wanted to. For now you should avoid him and you should only reward him with positive behaviour if he shows positive behaviour towards you again. I’m not adverse to you giving him another chance, because he’s just a friend, but he needs to regain your trust first of all, then you can reward him for that good behaviour. |
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