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He masturbated me, then I gave him a blow job, he said he would contact me but didn't |
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Written by diane
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I met a guy a few weeks ago at a party through the same circle of university friends, it was an all night party and i ended up sleeping in same bed as him. We did not have sex but he masturbated me,
That's good because he obviously got no pleasure himself out of the night but gave you pleasure. So it would be considered a good sign that he was willing to do this just for you. He maybe a rare guy that likes to please a woman and let the woman take the upper hand in a relationship. Women of course usually don't go for a guy that wants to be dominated by the woman, they like a guy to take charge of things. I got to know him a little better by visiting round at his place and we had cool times. A few days ago he called at my friends house (my friend is dating his friend) and she invited me over we all spent the night drinking and talking, I invited him back to my place to stayover and i gave him oral sex which i enjoyed and he came, In a way that could be seen as a positive step because you were reciprocating the favour, but I think the best thing for you to do would have been to masturbate him because that matches what he did to you. Instead you chose to give him a blow job which to many people is seen as something so intimate it's reserved for someone you have been in a relationship with for a while. I know blow jobs happen sooner in a relationship in this modern day, but I'd have to ask how many of those relationships last after that. the next morning he left for work and said he would call me. Its been five days now i haven't contacted him and he hasn't contacted me In my opinion this is really bad of him. Because he clearly said he would call you and you performed this intimate act on him and demonstrated that you were into him in a big way. To me he has now gone and spoilt his chances. It could be that he was drunk on these two occasions and really did not have any intentions of getting with you. It could be that he fancied you, but because you gave him a blow job, he saw this as a sign that you were very into him and he would be expected to commit too much to you too soon. i am now feeling embarrassed and upset i really opened up to him and thought that we had connected. I think it's understandable that you would be upset about this, he has dealt with this in the completely wrong way. It's important that he isn't allowed to contact you on an irregular basis when he feels like some sex, because that's the way it looks like ending up. i wish to remain friends with him but don't know how to go about it my concern is that I am four years older than him, he is 22 and i am 26 and i am more experienced in relationships he's never had a long term relationship is he expecting me to be more dominant? It's true young and inexperienced guys tend to be very poor in dealing with relationships and they are scared of showing any committment because they generally don't want to settle down and get married, they want to have casual sex and lots of fun. The fact that you are older will mean he is less likely to fancy a long term relationship with you, but more likely to see you as someone that can show him some experience in bed. There are a minority of blokes out there that like to be dominated by women, or rather they like the woman to take charge. Women unfortunately tend to take the attitude that a man should take charge unless except in situations where a woman wants her own way and feels she needs to take charge. These type of guys are not bad guys, they just need to find a woman that likes and enjoys being in charge. When you've got a 22 year old guy going out with a 26 year old women, he tends to feel as though she can show him some experience both in bed and life wise and mother him a bit, and he will like that, it's usually the woman that usually hates this role and ends up breaking up the relationship. Should i contact him?
I don't see any reason not to. Even if you just contact him as a friend. It may look like you're being a little desperate but I think it's a case of contacting him once, if he doesn't contact back then don't bother with him anymore. Is it really important whether you look desperate or not? I personally don't really think so, you want to contact him and you should always do what you want to do. If you don't contact him, you are just going to carry on wondering what would have happened if you had contacted him. I think there is a good chance that he would contact you (unless he's lost your contact number), when he is ready for sex.
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