I got really drunk on a works do and slept with my ex boss. I was with my partner of eight years at the time. (Father of my two children) after we txted each other occasionally and flirted a bit. He still worked for the company but had moved to a diffrent office so we kept it quiet. we then went on another night out and I got so drunk I practically forced myself on him which ended in dire sex I cant rember. since then I have split with my partner. I have had a few texts from him asking if he can come over, and has phoned at 3am expecting me to go and fetch him but now I havnt heard from him for weeks. I have text him a couple of times asking him over but he just ignores them. I really really like him but dont want a relationship as I am not ready, I just want some company and sex. what should I do?

Tell him exactly that.  That's what you want so be straight with him.  I'm sure most guys would be pretty happy with that sort of comment.  Most guys would be straight round and in your knickers by now, if you said that to them.  He maybe getting scared at the moment and feeling you are getting too attached to him.  So by saying to him "I don't want a relationship as I'm not ready, I just want the company and the the sex", you are clearly stating to him that you are not getting attached.  He could think "Hmmm, this is a woman, women don't think like that, she's just trying to attract me back in because I've gone cold on her", but he's less likely to think that.  But really if that's the way you feel at the moment, why not tell him that.  If he doesn't bite, then you can just move on, it's better than him being quiet with you.   It could be that he's found someone else and that's why he's gone quiet, but I would guess, he's become guilty about using you for sex or feels as though you have become too committed or even he might be too busy for you at the moment.  What is clear, is he doesn't see you as a long term relationship, all he wants is the sex.

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