My husband is having a few issues in the bedroom department and Im starting to get worried. Could he be getting bored of me?

It's a possibility, but most of the time it's some form of anxiety or illness which causes it.  For example if he's got anaemia, he's stressed out, he has cancer or is having trouble with his job, there's a whole long list of possibilities before considering it might be you. 

He struggles to come sometimes if we are just fooling around (not actually having intercourse. He said it's because Im not having anything at time. I like to do this so later on he isn't in such a hurry to get to the end and it's all over!  We can then take our time and he can go for ages.

I think I know what you mean, you want to make him come a few times, so that when he works on you he lasts longer before coming? 

He dosen't understand my theory at all which is very annoying.

Seems a bit strange that a man doesn't understand that theory, but then again, I don't talk to many men about that sort of topic.  It's a well know fact amongst most men and indeed women, that you need to get the guy to come a few times before getting down to having sex with the woman, because then it takes him longer to come and therefore he can satisfy his lady much longer.  At least I thought it was common knowledge amongst men.

He dosen't seem to want it as much as before either and claims to be tired etc.

It sounds to me like his desire for sex is going and his stamina is going too, I think both of them are inter-related but it equally could have something to do with an illness or anxiety in his life at the moment.

I don't think theres anyone else.

I think most women are a good judge when a guy is playing around with someone else.   So I think you are more than likely to detect it, if there was someone else.  Men are pretty, damn obvious, even when they are trying not to be.

I need to do it regularly though and I'm getting fed up and noticing other men. I would never cheat but feel he isn't taking care of my needs like he used to.

You need to try and spice things up for him, try different things.  You could try some new underwear, think of a fantasy you have and try that out on him, dress up in naughty clothes, try vibrators and let him watch you with a vibrator, discuss sexual fantasies with him when he's in a relaxed state and not doint anything.  Whatever your fantasy men are usually pretty tolerant of sexual fanatasies, even if you want to be bent over and whipped a few times, I think most men will talk about it and if they are uncomfortable they will clearly say so, then you can just change the subject onto something else if he's uncomfortable. 

We have far more time together now that our kids are older but the spontaneous sex life I wanted isn't happening. I am only 35 and feel like an old married couple sometimes. I don't know what else to do, tried talking sensitively, spicing things up, acting sexy etc but nothings working!

You need to talk to him about your sexual fantasies and try and get him to talk about his afterwards. 

Are things likely to get better or should I just divorce him and find a partner who is more in tune with me?

I think it's early days for divorce yet.  I think you should give him a chance to recover himself.  Find out what the real issue is, tactfully and try and correct that issue.

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