1) Do men prefer clean shaven down there or prefer some hair or not really bothered either way as long as they get there they don`t particularly care what the 'carpet' is like?

Men prefer either fully waxed or brazilian.  The reasons for that is, if they want to go down on you and give you oral sex, they don't really want to be licking hairs.  Hairs get stuck in his mouth and he has to pull them out otherwise he will choke.  If he does have to pull them out of his mouth this causes a break in the sex and is a disappointment for him and probably her as well.  In fact I believe some women get stroppy if a guy stops to pull hairs out of his mouth, it's a natural thing for him to do, he doesn't want to choke. 

The other thing is he can see clearly where he is licking when there is no hair around and can lick those areas more intensely because he can see them better.

From a looks point of view, I think waxed, brazilian and hairy can all look good.  However the most important thing is that if you are hairy down below that it is well trimmed rather than a rampant bush and of course it must be hygienic.
 
2) Does a man get as much enjoyment out of orally satisfying a woman as she does in receiving it?

He definitely doesn't get as much enjoyment as the woman.  He certainly doesn't get orgasms from orally satisfying a woman.  Some men like giving oral sex more than others.  But in general the good feeling that he gets is mostly mental and not sexual.  It's mental stimulation that he is actually satisfying his lady, it's mental stimulation that he likes her enough to be able to go down on her and lick a part of her body that in general is not the sort of thing you want to put near your mouth.  It does turn him on when he's doing it, and it does turn him on if he is watching other people do it, but in general most of the feel good factor is mental and not sexual.
 
3) If a woman  does not feel comfortable trying something he suggests is he going to go off and find someone else who will do.

It depends on what he is asking her to do and how many things she refuses to do and how much he likes her as a person.  What I would say is if a guy fancies a woman so much, the fact that she won't do one thing in bed, doesn't mean it's time to ditch her.  It is uncomfortable and frustrating for a guy, because he has to negotiate the fact that you don't want to do it and so he has to relax you again. The frustration is the fact that he really wanted to try it. 

The clear thing about this matter is if he decides to find someone else, then he obviously didn't value you enough anyway, so it's best for you to move on and find a better guy.  I would have to say, if a woman doesn't want to do the majority of things a guy wants to do in bed, then they are complete mismatch and they should part company.  Sex is like everything else in the relationship, if you are way apart on what you both want, then the relationship really shouldn't exist.
 
4) If a woman makes him wait for sex he is going to get bored of waiting and find someone else

If a guy can't wait for sex and wait until you are ready for sex, then he obviously wasn't that interested in a long term relationship with you.  It's frustrating nowadays because men have got used to having sex early on and when a woman doesn't provide, it does make him frustrated, but really he should be able to wait until the time is right.  It is true that most guys will move onto someone else if they have to wait, other guys will make a grab for women because they think a woman is waiting for him to do so.  But the fact is if a guy really and truly fancies a woman for who she is, then he will wait. 

Being bored of waiting is more likely to turn into excitement and anticipation and frustration rather than boredom. The only time boredom comes into it, is when the guy is bored with the relationship, so is desperate for something more exciting in the form of sex.
 
5) If he is fantasising over another woman, eg.. magazines, porn etc. does that mean he is not happy with the way his partner looks and he wishes he was with someone like that...

Porn is good in small doses.  Where it becomes a problem is if he is replacing sex with porn or watching porn everyday (becoming addicted).  Porn is a guys inspiration, it gives him new ideas and inspirations in bed, gives him an incentive to try new things.  Unfortunately male porn is very much for men and often women don't particularly want to try things in a male porn video, so it can be slightly destructive too if he tries to get you to do things you don't want to do all the time. 

As for does he find the women in the video more attractive than her.  I would say "Yes more attractive as sexual objects, that they can try their fantasies on" but "Definitely NOT as attractive as a relationship prospect". 

Porn is also useful, when you are not up for sex, it relieves the pressure off you and allows him to view some porn instead of hassling you about having sex.  Even that can become a problem though, if when you do fancy some sex and he doesn't because he's being playing the night before with porn.
 
6) Do Condoms really spoil the sexual sensation for a man, how can a woman make up for this as  don`t want unprotected sex? ( a lot of younger guys apparantly use the excuse of not wanting to use a condom as it spoils his fun !!!)

Condoms are essential in relationships where people are not serious about having children yet and where there is a danger of a sexually transmitted disease.  Despite the education that young people have, they still hate condoms and feel embarrassed about putting a condom on and carrying condoms around.  For example what if you are on a date with a woman and she finds a condom in your pocket, well before she is ready for sex, she is more than likely to be unhappy with him for thinking he can get some sex out of her so early on (or at least that what he thinks).

You are in the passion of sex, then all of sudden you have to reach into your pocket and fiddle about with a condom wrapper, squeeze the air out of the teat and shove it on.  To a guy he feels very conscious of the fact he is fumbling about and not paying any attention to the woman who is probably eagerly watching and anticipating.  If he has already turned her on, then has to break and get out his condom, he feels as though she is probably well and truly turned off by now.  To a guy that is not so confident and not so comfortable with sex, he still finds it embarrassing and lacks a bit of confidence to get this rubber thing that he hasn't used before out of his pocket.

It's never going to be quite the same sensation having sex with a bit of rubber and having sex with a woman's real flesh.  For example imagine he is giving you oral sex but he lays a bit of rubber over you and licks that instead.  You are not really going to feel the same sensations as you would having his tongue licking you down below, you'd be feeling the sensations of his tongue through a bit of rubber.  So condoms are frustrating for guys, because it does take some of the sensations away, including the mental sensation of getting really intimate with the inside of a woman's body.  He is essentially having sex with a bit of rubber or latex. 

When you are in the passion of sex, it's easy to forget about the consequences of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, because your brain is focused on giving pleasure and receiving pleasure, rather than any bad consequences that may result afterwards.  However regardless of all that, condoms are absolutely essential and as much as a guy finds them frustrating he should wear one for his own sake, just as much as a woman's sake.
 
7) If he just wanted to use a woman for sex, but she also just wanted him to use him for sex, would he think she was a slag?

The only time I hear a guy call a woman a slag, is if she has done something wrong or she has had sex with another guy when she was going out with him. 

Every other time I have heard the word, it is from the mouth of a female who is unhappy with another female. 

So if you fancy some sex with a guy, but only fancy sex and you said so, I think he would be very chuffed and would be more than happy to supply you with some sex.  I doubt he would think you were a slag and as long as you don't fancy any of his acquaintances, I doubt it even matters if he does think you are a slag.  If you fancy any of his acquaintances though I recommend you don't do it, because he might tell that other person and that would put a bad picture in that other guys head.

There are many examples where you can have sex with a guy without any strings attached.  For example you travel to London for the weekend meet someone down there, he's unlikely to be a long term relationship prospect, because he lives in London, invite him back to your hotel room for a night of passion.  You are not going to see him again, he's unlikely to think of you as a slag, but if he does it doesn't matter because you probably won't see him again or any of his acquaintances.

Another example you meet a guy ten years younger than you, he's hot but very unlikely to want a long term relationship with you, but you fancy the excitement of having sex with him.  Just have sex with him, if you don't know any of his acquaintances, you are single, he is single, what does it matter, you get some sex, he gets some sex, as long as you use protection that's all that matters.

8) Does a man like a woman to take control or does he like to be in control.

It depends on the man.  Some men like to be in control, other men like to be dominated.  It also depends on the stage of the relationship and whether you have had sex yet.  In some cases men that fancy a long term relationship with a woman and daren't make a move sexually for reasons that they might scare a woman off or they are not used to have sex (because they are not the casual sex type), will wait for a woman to make the move sexually.  That move could be in the form of putting your hand under his shirt when you are kissing and various other indications that you want to get hot with him. 

I do believe all men like to be dominated at some point though, they like a woman to unexpectedly take control.  That could be something completely random, for example you are kissing him and you feel him getting hard in the trouser region, then you just grab hold of him down below.

Other cirumstances in bed, is where women push a guy and climb on top.  Essentially she is making sure she gets what she wants by moving on top of him and controlling her body on top of him.  Women on top can be a big turn on for some guys, if done at the right moment.
 
9) I really wish he would do ......... but i feel embarrassed asking him to do it... should I?

Fantasies can be discussed and you can bet if you start talking to him about your fantasies he will like it.  As long as you don't do it in a confrontational sort of way, by hinting you are not satisfying me in bed so I want to do this.  Partners should be able to talk freely to each other and that includes being able to talk about sex.
 
10) What is the sensation like for a man, before, during and after his orgasm?

It depends on the orgasm.  Usually when having sex with a woman there are some brief orgasms where he is touching the inside of a woman with his penis very briefly for some split seconds, I can't really describe those orgasms, they are more just very light tingling in the penis, I'm not sure you can really call these orgasms as such because they are not that powerful.

A man also gets slight orgasms when he withdraws in and out, again these are not that significant and can not necessarily be called orgasms.  It's basically a sensation of having you penis rubbed up and down by moving in and out of a tight woman.  I think this sensation becomes more intense the more times a guy has sex in a sex session.  The first time he has sex these sensations can be fairly mild and a guy usually comes pretty quickly, the next few times the sensation becomes greater, maybe because it takes longer to come each time and therfore the penis has more times to thrust in and out and therefore the sensation increases with time.  I suppose you could describe it as a tickling, itchy kind of feeling.

Before a man has his orgasm he can start to feel the pressure and the blood build up in his penis, there is sometimes an itchy, tickling feeling adding to the pressure of him wanting to come.  It's like a champagne cork loosening and the bottle shaking, there is some pressure behind it to make the cork pop and it's contents explode out.  The only really big orgasm a guy gets is when he comes.  What usually happens is he will feel his brain rush (with blood, feel good chemicals?), he will feel immense pressure in his penis, then when he comes he will get about 20 seconds of brain rush, sensation up his spine to his head, his eyes will probably cross and his body will go into spasm.

A guy can have multiple orgasms from one sex session but that will usually involve him stopping at exactly the right point just before he comes, or nipping the end of his penis at exactly the right time.  This is very difficult to do particularly the first sex episode because the pressure builds up and there is only a split second point where you can have an orgasm without coming.  And it is a very split second.  If he does the timing wrong, then he'll end up coming and have relatively little orgasm at all.

The easiest way to get him to have a multiple orgasm is to either play with his joystick.  Rub your fingers and hands and masturbate him in different movements, he won't know what sensation to expect next and that makes his orgasms more intense.  You will hear him making noises and he will actually move like a woman and spasm up and down on the bed and lifting his upper body off the bed.  Women often think they are hurting a guy when he is making these noises, but believe me if you were hurting him he would tell you. 

Something that does annoy him though is when he comes and a woman holds her hand out and looks in disgust at the fact that he has come on her hand, a man seriously doesn't like that.  Just ask him calmly if he has a towel or some tissue, don't look as though someone has just been sick on you. It's really annoying to a guy, that you don't like the look of his body fluids, I know how disgusting they are but there's no need to make him think you are disgusted at him and he's dirty and disgusting.  Or just go to the bathroom and wash your hands, but don't instantly shoot off the bed and run to the toilet like there's been a chemical leak, just relax it's not likely to damage your skin.

The other way of course is by blow job.  There are so many more different sensations that a man feels it's unbelievable.  You have your hands, your fingers, your tongue, your lips, the roof of your mouth, the bottom of your mouth, your teeth (though don't bite him), all these different sensations and the anticipation of what sensation he is going to feel next is amazing.  
 
11) Does he feel anything physical or emotional when the woman reaches orgasm?

It's a guys dream to make a woman orgasm and come.  It's a matter of pride, achievement, keeping the woman interested, making the woman feel good. It's mainly emotional what he feels, he feels more attached to the woman, feels as though he can hold onto the woman or have sex with her again, he partly feels that a woman played an important part in her own orgasm, so he feels a bond with her, he's more likely to feel as though they are both right for each other, because they make such a good partnership in bed.  He does have some brief elation in his head that he has made her orgasm. 

12) Does it make him feel bad if she doesn`t orgasm?

If she doesn't orgasm, a guy is more likely to become scared of her and think she will not want him in bed again and it will deplete his self confidence, and feel as though their partnership is not destined to work, it will also make him fear his reputation would be damaged because women talk.  So in this case a guy is more likely to move onto another woman.

Some selfish guys that are only interested in having sex with a woman once, won't be too bothered, they'll only be interested in what they get out of sex. 

But most guys will be deeply disappointed if they didn't provide an orgasm for their woman.  So disappointed it may make him depressed and give him a fear that he might become sub-standard in bed.
 
13) Does a man sometimes feel slightly embarrassed after sex and not sure what to say etc especially early on in the relationship?

You should really get to know someone very well before having sex, unfortunately nowadays that all too often doesn't happen.  There are 12 steps in a relationship and people should follow those steps carefully, if they want a long term relationship.  The most important step is to get to know each other before having sex, Step 3 in the forum posting 12 steps to pair bonding .  As soon as you have sex your lust factor gets turned on, if you haven't got to know each other before that lust factor has turned on, then you are hardly likely to get to know each other.  Everytime you meet up he won't be able to focus on getting to know you but will want to focus on having sex with you.  That results in an inability to be able to talk to you.

Men do get embarrassed and guilty about having sex with women.  Players are probably least likely to be too embarrassed they just saw the woman as a ride anyway.

When some men get drunk they have sex with women that they really didn't fancy that much.  But they can also have sex with women that they really did fancy, but from that point onwards the fizz goes out of the relationship because they have jumped stages.  A man just wakes up in the morning and doesn't know what to say or do, because he knows he did the wrong thing.  That wrong thing was as the result of alcohol or being overcome with passion.
 
14) Does a man compare sex to his previous sexual partners? What if they 'thrilled' him more?

Men do compare sex with previous partners, he's bound to learn from and compare previous circumstances and I'm sure women do that as well.  If women from before thrilled him more, then he will weigh up the situation.  Is this woman right for me sex wise and right for me relationship wise?  If the answer is no to both then he will move on.  If it's one or the other, he will have to weigh up the situation.  In general sex can be made good, even if one sex session was bad, other sex sessions can be good.
 
15) Do men really tell their friends all about their sexual encounters?

It depends on the type of guy and his age.  A young guy likes to brag about his sexual experiences, compete with his friends, share his experiences, what positions he got her into, how he made his move etc.  Generally guys that are outspoken and go to pubs typically like to chat about their sexual exploits. 

The shy guys, less experienced or reserved guys tend to try and keep things to themselves.  And older guys typically don't go into too much detail about their sex life.  They learn that as time goes by, that is a private part of their life and they don't want their mates telling anyone about it.  Imagine a married guy going into the pub and telling his mates about his sex session with his wife last night, it just sounds slightly uncomfortable.  So the older he gets the more serious the relationship, the less likely he is to talk about it to his friends.

16)  Is how big he is when he is soft and indication of how big he is when he is hard  (I look down at a guys trouser region to check)?

How big he is when he is soft is no indicator of how big he is when he is hard.  When he is not turned on and is soft there are hundreds of things that control what size he is at that point, a few of them are, his body temperature, the temperature around him, what he’s eaten in the past 24-48 hours, what he is wearing, what exercise he’s been doing, whether his bladder is full etc.  Throughout the day it completely increases and decreases in size and not just when he gets turned on by a sexy woman.

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