I was chatting to a group of friends mentioning about a friend of mine who only goes out with men with money.
That's one thing I never tell women, that I have plenty of money. The last kind of woman that I want to be with, is a woman that will only go out with men that have money. It immediately sounds alarm bells in a blokes head, this woman must be a compulsive spender or she is at least very naiive to think that a bloke with money is somehow better than other blokes. It also spells out that she is not interested in who you are, but how much money you've got.
I'm imagining getting married to this woman, only to find she wants to divorce me a few months later, so she can rip my money off me, then she will find her next male victim and make some quick money out of him too. I know that is a bit exaggerated but that's what springs into my mind and I have heard plenty of other blokes say exactly the same thing.
Some rich men use this to their advantage (like they can have sex with a super beautiful woman, that is obsessed with money), others are more sensible and avoid women that are like this, because they know it is a relationship that is destined for failure and sometimes trouble (it's usually the sensible blokes that want a long term relationship with a woman).
If they have a nice car and money regardless of how attractive or pleasant he is she will go out with him.
That's another thing that really winds me up. A bloke with a nice car is somehow better than any other bloke. Having sold my car, I am currently driving around in my brother's fairly new Nissan Micra, while I'm looking for a new car. I have had 5 ladies say to me so far, "when are you going to get a proper blokes car, you do realise that your not going to be attractive to women, driving that?"
My feelings and opinion are very strong on this issue and I think many other men have strong feelings about this too, but never usually tell women about them. So I'm going to tell you. The fact is, I don't give a toss what women think about my car, I buy a car to reliably get me from one place to the other, not to show off, if a woman doesn't like that, that's her problem. I could happily afford to walk into a Porsche showroom and pay cash for a Porsche car, but I actually have more intelligence than that. A Porsche is bad for the environment and it's pointless spending money on a sports car, unless you have access to a race track. Anybody who risks a child's life or even an adults life by speeding on normal roads is simply being stupid.
There is a split amongst men on this issue though, there are a lot of men with an obsession and adrenalin rush attitude to fast cars (you've probably seen the Top Gear crash in the news in recent months). These men tend to be a bit daft and think it is good to risk their lives and other peoples lives by driving like idiots, it's only when they have an accident that they actually wake up and start to realise that speed can kill. These guys also tend to attract women quite easily, but tend not to be serious about long term relationships. I know plenty of guys like this and some are friends of mine and I am not afraid to tell them they are daft. They will never listen though because the adrenalin rush is just too addictive to them.
One of the group mentioned that he would have no chance, to which I replied 'oh you will be ok you have a brand new volvo'. When I looked at him he was laughing then said, oh so is that all anyone would want from me, my nice car, so I have nothing else going for me have I not?
He's making the exact point that I made above, which demonstrates that this is immediately what a bloke thinks, when he is confronted by this idea, that women are only interested in a rich bloke with a nice car.
To which I replied, oh you could have an old banger, and you would still have no problem with women.
Yes, that kind of hints that you fancy him.
At that point he went scarlet red. I apologised for embarrasing him, but later wondered why he did go red. Could it have been because of what I said, or could it have been because he perhaps thought I fancied him, and if so, if he did fancy me too, would that make him go red?
Whether he fancied you or not, this comment would have made him go red. If he did fancy you, this red flush might have been his hormones reacting to your compliment. If he doesn't fancy you, he might of gone red because he wasn't expecting you to say that or because he didn't know what to say or do in return.
Of all the time I have known him I have never seen him react like he did then.
If he is normally a confident bloke then this reaction is more likely because he doesn't fancy you, and he thought you were demonstrating that you do. If he is quite shy or gets lost for words or easily blushes, it could be because he actually fancies you and wasn't quite expecting your answer. If he had taken your comments as meaning that you fancied him and he felt the same way, you would have thought he would have attempted to get closer to you by now though.
