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Alex on 02/11/2006
I was chatting to a group of friends
mentioning about a friend of mine who only goes out with men with money.
That's one thing I never tell
women, that I have plenty of money. The last kind of woman that I
want to be with, is a woman that will only go out with men that have
money. It immediately sounds alarm bells in a blokes head, this
woman must be a compulsive spender or she is at least very naiive to think that a bloke with money is somehow
better than other blokes. It also spells out that she is not
interested in who you are, but how much money you've got.
I'm imagining getting married to
this woman, only to find she wants to divorce me a few months later, so
she can rip my money off me, then she will find her next male victim and
make some quick money out of him too. I know that is a bit
exaggerated but that's what springs into my mind and I have heard plenty
of other blokes say exactly the same thing.
Some rich men use this to their
advantage (like they can have sex with a super beautiful woman, that is
obsessed with money), others are more sensible and avoid women that are
like this, because they know it is a relationship that is destined for
failure and sometimes trouble (it's usually the sensible blokes that want
a long term relationship with a woman).
If they have a nice car and money
regardless of how attractive or pleasant he is she will go out with him.
That's another thing that really
winds me up. A bloke with a nice car is somehow better than any
other bloke. Having sold my car, I am currently driving around in
my brother's fairly new Nissan Micra, while I'm
looking for a new car. I have had 5 ladies say to me so
far, "when are you going to get a proper blokes car, you do realise
that your not going to be attractive to women,
driving that?"
My feelings and opinion are very
strong on this issue and I think many other men have strong feelings
about this too, but never usually tell women about them. So I'm
going to tell you. The fact is, I don't give a toss what women
think about my car, I buy a car to reliably get me from one place to the
other, not to show off, if a woman doesn't like that, that's her
problem. I could happily afford to walk into a Porsche showroom and
pay cash for a Porsche car, but I actually have more intelligence than
that. A Porsche is bad for the environment and it's
pointless spending money on a sports car, unless you have access to a
race track. Anybody who risks a child's life or even an adults life by speeding on normal roads is simply
being stupid.
There is a split amongst men on
this issue though, there are a lot of men with an obsession and adrenalin
rush attitude to fast cars (you've probably seen the Top Gear crash in
the news in recent months). These men tend to be a bit daft and
think it is good to risk their lives and other peoples
lives by driving like idiots, it's only when they have an accident that
they actually wake up and start to realise that speed can kill.
These guys also tend to attract women quite easily, but tend not to be
serious about long term relationships. I know plenty of guys like
this and some are friends of mine and I am not afraid to tell them they
are daft. They will never listen though because the adrenalin rush
is just too addictive to them.
One of the group mentioned that he
would have no chance, to which I replied 'oh you will be ok you have a
brand new volvo'. When I looked at him he was
laughing then said, oh so is that all anyone would want from me, my nice
car, so I have nothing else going for me have I not?
He's making the exact point that I
made above, which demonstrates that this is immediately what a bloke
thinks, when he is confronted by this idea, that women are only
interested in a rich bloke with a nice car.
To which I replied, oh you could
have an old banger, and you would still have no problem with women.
Yes, that kind of hints that you
fancy him.
At that point he went scarlet red. I
apologised for embarrasing him, but later
wondered why he did go red. Could it have been because of what I said, or
could it have been because he perhaps thought I fancied him, and if so,
if he did fancy me too, would that make him go red?
Whether he fancied you or not,
this comment would have made him go red. If he did fancy you, this
red flush might have been his hormones reacting to your compliment.
If he doesn't fancy you, he might of gone red because he wasn't expecting
you to say that or because he didn't know what to say or do in return.
Of all the time I have known him I
have never seen him react like he did then.
If he is normally a confident
bloke then this reaction is more likely because he doesn't fancy you, and
he thought you were demonstrating that you do. If he is quite shy
or gets lost for words or easily blushes, it could be because he actually
fancies you and wasn't quite expecting your answer. If he had taken
your comments as meaning that you fancied him and he felt the same way,
you would have thought he would have attempted to get closer to you by
now though.
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