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Kazster on 25/11/2006
There is a guy I deal with on a
business level, whom i really fancy. We get on really really well and
speak ocassionally on the phone and sometimes have appointments together.
When we do speak on the phone, it is for a long period of time, talking
about random things like friends and family.
That is a very positive thing
because you don't go having conversations about personal life with
business associates unless there is some mutual interest. You may
get the odd polite questions about personal life but certainly not in
detail or on a regular basis. Unless of course he is trying to
butter you up to clinch a business deal.
When he went on holiday he emailed
me and jokingly asked me would i miss him when he went away.
This indicates he is going to be
thinking of you whilst he is on holiday. He is spending his time
e-mailing you to inquire whether you will miss him. And he
takes the risk of saying these sort of things to
a business associate.
Then when i met a new colleague of
his on a lunch appointment, he emailed me and her saying thanks for
lunch, she thought you were lovely and i told her she was right.
Recently he went speed dating, and
for a joke, i told his colleague to say i was going for a laugh.
If he is going speed dating, he is
obviously on the market and serious about dating women. He is also
probably a guy that finds it difficult to meet women in other
circumstances, either because he doesn't have time or doesn't get the
opportunity to meet single women or he meets them in the wrong
circumstances like nightclubs or pubs (when he and the women are drunk).
He then emailed me saying are you
really going speed dating to the same place as me? I played along with
the joke, he thought it was really cool and seemed excited i was going. I
had to fess up and say i was only joking. I did feel bad,
he called me a tease jokingly.
Nothing to really feel bad about,
you have to have a joke every now and then, as long as he didn't see it
as you where taking the mick out of him for going speed dating. Even
then, I'm sure he would get over it.
Next week my company is holding a
party where he will be there..I sent him an
email last week with some work things, he emailed back, saying thanks,
really looking forward to the party. Should i tell him how i feel at the
party? in that i fancy him, or just flirt with
him a little more?
Not really wise at a party, that
is full of his colleagues and your colleagues. It could be
embarrassing. Just, relax and have a good time and whatever
happens, was meant to happen. Don't go out of your way to avoid the
fact that you fancy him, but don't throw yourself at him, because it
could be embarrassing. And don't get too drunk, you don't want to
look like a drunken mess, or start doing or saying things you might later
regret. Flirting is good, it's good fun and shows that you are
keen, the rest will just instinctively happen. What you will have
to do is a gauge his comfort zone, is he keen of
flirting with you with his colleagues present or does he find it
embarrassing.
To me what you want from the party
is to become closer to him, chat with him and to get a date with
him. When the date comes around, is when you can really show how
much you like him (when your not under the
supervision of yours or his colleagues).
Do you think he sounds keen?
Everything that you have told me
is positive, so I would say, yes he is keen.
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