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Lara on
03/11/2005
I was at a leaving party the other weekend and meet a guy there, we hit
it off immediately. We left together and went back to my house, though
nothing happened, we just fell asleep in the spooning position. Then he
stayed till late afternoon watching dvds, we swapped numbers. But he
lives out of town, about two hours from me. I just want a little bit of
fun as I know it cant lead to anything, so how do I get him interested in
"dirty weekends" without actually having to ask him (through
text first of all). I dont do serious relationships as i have a very busy
life and I'm very socialable. Basically how do I get him interested in a
bit of naughtieness, so he actually thinks up the idea himself.
Sam's Response
Hi lara
You said "we just fell asleep in the spooning position. Then he
stayed till late afternoon watching dvds, we swapped numbers."
Sounds like the guy, most women dream of. It is a pity you are not
looking for a serious relationship. For you to meet someone at a party,
take him back to your house, not have sex, but to fall to sleep in an
intimate position, just seems like a match made in heaven so far. Then to
add to that the fact that he stayed until afternoon and watched dvds
(What a man!).
You said "So how do I get him interested in "dirty weekends"
without actually having to ask him" Well all you need to do is to
exchange some boring texts ("How are you doing? What are you getting
up to at the moment?"). After a few texts one of you is going to
crack and ask to meet up for a drink or meal or whatever.
After a great night out, it is bound to end up back at your place or his
place. There is no need to be pushy, it will happen, when it happens. But
make sure you give him a few vital clues that you want to get physical.
Like touching him, starting off, just on the arm or somewhere non
intimate, not forceful touches, just naturally touching when you are
talking to him.
The important part is don't be pushy, don't look desperate, don't be
aggressive, just move slowly.
You said "how do I get him interested in a bit of naughtiness, so he
actually thinks up the idea himself" I really can't imagine him, not
thinking of being naughty. It is one of the things a man is guaranteed to
think about every day for most of the day. And I am sure he has thought
of being naughty with you. You just have to give him that chance to be
naughty, and show you are interested without looking desperate.
The fact is, it is about him making the rights
moves at the right time and you making the right moves at the right time.
You have to be synchronized with each others feelings and make the right
physical and verbal moves at the right time.
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