Can't give you want you want, so we should split.

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Mels on 17/11/2005

iv been seeing this man for the past year and a half, at the beging it was great he told me he was falling in love with me, then the next min he was saying i 'cant give you what you want' so we would spilt, then a week later would be back together,these silly game carryed on for mounths, he then said he was in love with someone else, so split again, but he still would txt me and say he's missing me, like a fool id still have sex with him, now the realsionship is over with this other lady,and has came running back to me, hes still in love with her as he has told me. but since that realtion spilt with her. we have became very close again, all the signs are there,
he is alot older than me, and wonders what i see in him, think he maybe insicure. iv asked him whats going on beetween us and hes saying he cant commit, but he says he cares for me so much.
what shall i do im in such a mess!!

Sam's Response

Hi Mels
The fact is, that he keeps leaving you for another woman and keeps saying he is unsure about your relationship. What I would decipher from that is you are not special enough to him to be considered his number one woman. And indeed he is unsure about whether he wants to have a relationship with you at all.

The way I see it, is a bloke should treat the woman that he wants, as number one, no swaying off to other relationships and then coming back. Most blokes that do this are simply taking the mick out of women. Using their ex-girlfriends for sex when they are going through a rough patch.

(Sorry!) My advice: ditch him and find someone that sees you as their number one woman.

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