I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. i see him 3 times a week which is ok because we dont want to see each other everyday because our ex partners were possesive. but recently he keeps being really horrible and shouting at me. He has a child with his ex and there still very close.
His priorities should be with his child.
he chooses his friends over me and says that he isn;t forcing me to stay with him...why dont i just go.
If a bloke is bad enough to say this, then you are better off without him. He obviously doesn't value your relationship enough. And I would question whether he valued your relationship at all. It seems he could use the excuse not to see him, because both your ex partners were possesive. To me, ex partners are ex partners, as soon as you start a relationship with someone else you move on and forget about ex partners. Your having a relationship with a new person not your ex-partner and a new person.
The problem is, im scared to be on my own and i really dont think i could handle seeing him with another girl it would rip me to shreds.
In my opinion, if you do see him with another girl, she is going to be going through the same crap that you are going through with him. There is nothing to be jealous about, I would feel sorry for her.
You need to concentrate on finding a bloke that values you, because if you stay with him, not many blokes any going to come near you. Sooner or later he is going to want to not see you at all, or he is just going to continue to mess you about. But if you let either of these situations happen then yes, you are going to be alone. You need to act now to find someone else. Ditch him first and that increases your chances of finding someone else. It's easier said than done, but you have got to be ruthless and look after your long term interests. This bloke is a dead end. He has a child, he is still close to his ex-partner, he treats you like crap, he doesn't want to see you on a regular basis (which to me is not a relationship at all, it's certainly not going to end up with you getting married, because then he will have to spend more time with you). Yes, you maybe alone in the short term, but if you really want to find someone else, then you will be determined to find someone else.
please help as it is killing me staying with him and i just want to move on.
Move on!!!!
