I've really liked this guy at my college for at least half a year now. Thing is though I never have the courage to speak to him or even look at him sometimes. He's in my class and sits exactly opposite me. I've noticed that he looks my way a lot but I'm wondering if thats just cos am sat opp. him?
I doubt it, he probably sat opposite you because he wanted to look at you all day. Men couldn't bear to constantly look at a woman that he wasn't attracted to. So there is a good reason why he is looking at you.
he always seems to be standing facing me and he seems to be around me whenever we are in the same place.
That's no coincidence if you are constantly noticing him standing and sitting opposite you.
the other day i was in the quad with my friend and we were talking and he was stood far away with his mate but as soon as we sat on a wall in the quad he came over and started messing about with his mates right behind us.
Again making his presence known.
he always seems to be messing about and joking a lot whenever I see him.
Trying to impress you and make it known he is lots of fun to be with.
He speaks to most of the people in the class but he has never spoken to me. for eg we had to move classrooms once and first off it was just me, him and another girl, but he was really quiet and he sat opp me again even tho there were loads of empty chairs available and he had gone bright red..
Sounds like a shy guy, with a fear of woman. There are guys that fear women so much, as soon as they have decided they fancy a woman they immediately build up a massive fear of them. They want to make a move, but don't know what to do or what to say and don't want to mess things up and be rejected.
It is a bit like a poor, lower class guy, fancying a princess. He shows the princess too much respect and thinks she will never fancy someone like him. After all he is lower class, knows little about her background and stands little chance of being with her. Apply that concept to you and him and you are the princess, and that is the kind of phobia he may have built up about talking to you. He can smile from a distance, get himself noticed but can't quite build up the courage to approach you and talk to you.
i dont know why! Can you help me out cos am just relying on wishful thinking at the moment!!
From what you have said he does fancy you. There are just too many incidences when you have noticing him opposite you and looking at you and trying to attract your attention. You both have to relax and get at least a few brief words out of each other initially. Followed by some more detailed conversations later on.
All you need to do initially is say hello and stuff like that. Try and break down this barrier in his mind that you are somehow superior to him. Don't give him any reason to be scared of you, don't try any "playing hard to get" kind of games, because you'll just scare him off and make him feel as though he has been rejected.
