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Stargirl11 on 07/05/2006
I've really liked this guy at my college
for at least half a year now. Thing is though I never have the courage to
speak to him or even look at him sometimes. He's in my class and sits
exactly opposite me. I've noticed that he looks my way a lot but I'm wondering
if thats just cos am sat opp. him?
I doubt it, he probably sat opposite you
because he wanted to look at you all day. Men couldn't bear to
constantly look at a woman that he wasn't attracted to. So there is
a good reason why he is looking at you.
he always seems to be standing facing me
and he seems to be around me whenever we are in the same place.
That's no coincidence if you are
constantly noticing him standing and sitting opposite you.
the other day i was in the quad with my
friend and we were talking and he was stood far away with his mate but as
soon as we sat on a wall in the quad he came over and started messing
about with his mates right behind us.
Again making his presence known.
he always seems to be messing about and
joking a lot whenever I see him.
Trying to impress you and make it known he
is lots of fun to be with.
He speaks to most of the people in the
class but he has never spoken to me. for eg we had to move classrooms
once and first off it was just me, him and another girl, but he was
really quiet and he sat opp me again even tho there were loads of empty
chairs available and he had gone bright red..
Sounds like a shy guy, with a fear of
woman. There are guys that fear women so much, as soon as they have
decided they fancy a woman they immediately build up a massive fear of
them. They want to make a move, but don't know what to do or what
to say and don't want to mess things up and be rejected.
It is a bit like a poor, lower class guy,
fancying a princess. He shows the princess too much respect and
thinks she will never fancy someone like him. After all he is lower
class, knows little about her background and stands little chance of
being with her. Apply that concept to you and him and you are the
princess, and that is the kind of phobia he may have built up about
talking to you. He can smile from a distance, get himself noticed
but can't quite build up the courage to approach you and talk to you.
i dont know why! Can you help me out cos
am just relying on wishful thinking at the moment!!
From what you have said he does fancy
you. There are just too many incidences when you have noticing him
opposite you and looking at you and trying to attract your
attention. You both have to relax and get at least a few brief
words out of each other initially. Followed by some more detailed
conversations later on.
All you need to do initially is say hello
and stuff like that. Try and break down this barrier in his mind
that you are somehow superior to him. Don't give him any reason to
be scared of you, don't try any "playing hard to get" kind of
games, because you'll just scare him off and make him feel as though he
has been rejected.
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