I'd been chatting to a male friend (he is younger than me) on line on and off for 12 months. He kept prompting me to go meet him early hours of the morning and in the end I gave in and did back in January.
So you could have some naughty meetings in the early hours of the morning?
We just talked in my car, nothing else happened although it probably could have!
Yes, he probably wished it had, but maybe he wanted you to take the initiative and get naughty with him.
Since then he hasn't even spoken to me on line, won't reply to my e-mails or text's!
It maybe that after meeting up with you, he decided you were not suited to each other long term.
Through conversations we've had I do have feelings for him, and I'm just not sure if he feels the same way
He, almost certainly does not feel the same way, you don't cut somebody off, if you have feelings for them. Men tend not to value good conversation as much as women, a blokes idea of a good time is having sex.
- but he just seems to have cut me off altogether and I don't understand why.
Because he didn't get any sex?
I don't think I did or said anything to offend him, infact I'm sure of it. I've known him for some years as he used to go to schoool with my son.
Ah, now that answers the question. He's young enough to be your son. It's every young man's dream to get with his friend's mother. He knows she has experience in bed and it is just naughty and risky and very unlikely to happen. So what he wanted was a dangerous liaison in the middle of the night (or early hours of the morning).
But he probably wanted you to take charge and make it clear to him you wanted sex because you are the most experienced at sex and seducing people of the opposite sex. He would find it very difficult to make the first move, what if your son found out, what if your partner found out. What if you were not really interested in having sex with him, it would be extremely embarrassing. Plus it is quite overwhelming trying to get with an older and quite scary. When a guy imagines it, in his mind, when the older woman is not their in front of him, he thinks it is easy to capture that older woman. When the older woman is there, he tends to get overcome with guilt and generally feels a lack of ability to take control of the older woman.
I just need some kind of light shedding on this as it's got me totally confused.
OK, not many men fancy older woman. When it comes to older women, young men fantasize about having sex with them, but that is generally as far as it goes. They are not interested in a long term relationship, at least they definitely don't at first, if the sexual relationship drags on for a while, then you can find that the younger man, starts to get feelings for the woman. But in general it doesn't last that long. This guy is probably thinking one of the following:
- I didn't get any sex from her, so she is not worth seeing again.
- He feels too guilty using you for sex, without any interest in a long term relationship
- I really find it too scary dating my friends mother, there is no way I can have sex or a relationship with her.
- It was an experience, but I don't think I'm really into dating older women.
For 12 months, he has probably been sat at his computer fantasizing about having sex with his friend's mother, after meeting up with you he probably thinks I'm not trying that again, it's not as easy as he thinks getting with an older woman. To be honest it is probably a mixture of the above four points, that would be my conclusion.
