becky88 on 18.10.2005
hi, theres a guy that i have known for quite a while, but
never really liked him till a few weeks ago. he's a notorious flirt but he seems
always to want to be where i am, like i walk past where he is, and he'll go out
of his way (it seems) to talk, but then he wont speak to me, and then will
again. He also remembers nearly everything i have said. even if its pointless.
he touches me alot and whenever we've had a bit to drink we always end up being
together all the time, but never doing anything. i really want to be with him
but i dont know how he feels or how to go about it...HELP!!!???
Sam's
Response
Hi Becky
You say "but then he wont speak to me, and then will again". This is a
standard thing that men do, because men find that if they act too eager women
go off them. So they go hot and cold all the time to make sure the woman fall
for them.
You say "He also remembers nearly everything i have said", he is obviously
very interested in what you say and hence must be very attracted to you if he
takes the time to remember even minor details.
You say "he touches me alot". Again men don't touch women they don't find
attractive.
You say "i really want to be with him, but i dont know how he feels or how to
go about it" I am not sure what circumstances you meet him in (e.g. work,
supermarket). But it sounds as though, you go out for a drink with him. So
there are several ways to go about it
- Pretend you are a bit drunk (but don't get drunk because you won't remember
anything). That way you can do all sorts like lean on him as you are sitting
down or walking down the street. But if you touch him too much, he might think
it is the green light for sex. If he rejects you, you can just apologise for
being a bit tipsy.
- Throw some hints that you would like to go to a concert or the cinema. Not
obvious hints, just bring it into the conversation "I am thinking about going
to the concert, but none of my friends are available to go".
I can't really guarantee that the above things will work, because it depends
on the situation you are in and depends on your execution at the time, as well
as many other factors.
You just have to make yourself approachable without looking desperate and
hopefully he will then fall for you.
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You say "but then he wont speak to me, and then will again". This is a standard thing that men do, because men find that if they act too eager women go off them. So they go hot and cold all the time to make sure the woman fall for them.
You say "He also remembers nearly everything i have said", he is obviously very interested in what you say and hence must be very attracted to you if he takes the time to remember even minor details.
You say "he touches me alot". Again men don't touch women they don't find attractive.
You say "i really want to be with him, but i dont know how he feels or how to go about it" I am not sure what circumstances you meet him in (e.g. work, supermarket). But it sounds as though, you go out for a drink with him. So there are several ways to go about it
- Pretend you are a bit drunk (but don't get drunk because you won't remember anything). That way you can do all sorts like lean on him as you are sitting down or walking down the street. But if you touch him too much, he might think it is the green light for sex. If he rejects you, you can just apologise for being a bit tipsy.
- Throw some hints that you would like to go to a concert or the cinema. Not obvious hints, just bring it into the conversation "I am thinking about going to the concert, but none of my friends are available to go".
I can't really guarantee that the above things will work, because it depends on the situation you are in and depends on your execution at the time, as well as many other factors.
You just have to make yourself approachable without looking desperate and hopefully he will then fall for you.
Click here to Ask Sam some questions