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come to bed eyes on 17/05/2006
I'm married and we have a boy who is 8
months old, we have been together for 14 years.
If you have been together for 14 years, I
don't see why he would suddenly decide he wants to find someone
else. Does he adore his 8 month old boy? If so, then why would he
want to split up with you?
My husband have started going to the gym
3 times a week, he's getting fit, and starting to have female friends.
I can understand you getting a bit
paranoid, because women tend to swarm around men that go the gym, for
some reason. But guys need to keep fit to feel good and to get the
best out of life, so it's also a good thing for him. Some men go to
play football with their friends others go the pub with their
friends. Either way, men need to get away from the wife and relax
and enjoy life every now and then.
But you should be getting the chance to
get out the house and enjoy what you enjoy doing every now and then as
well. This might be going out with your friends and having a good
time or it might be that you go out with your husband and have a good
time. In fact you could even go to the gym with him. Though
he might not be too keen about this because it is his chance to escape
the house and you (not saying that maliciously but you need to get away
from your partners every now and then, rather than being stuck in each
others pockets).
I'm feeling very uncomfortable, and one
point I wasn't sure if he was having affair.
You should only get paranoid about a man
having an affair if you have good evidence that he has. Virtually
every woman can chew herself that a man is having an affair, when really
it is just in her imagination, that imagination can have a bad effect on
a woman and on a relationship, so you should only accuse him when you
have good reason. Yes you should be suspicious, but you shouldn't
be stopping him from going to the gym, simply because you are getting
jealous or suspect he might be having an affair based on your
imagination.
We talked about it but he says I'm being
silly, and why can't I have female friends. I'm finding it hard has my
body shape have changed. I'm back to my size 10, from having a baby, but
I don't feel sexy anymore.
Is this because you have had a baby?
Just because you have had a baby, doesn't mean you suddenly become
unattractive to a man. As long as you don't give him good reason to
find you unattractive. If you start going on about feeling
unattractive then maybe he will starting seeing you as someone who lacks
confidence. What you should be doing is making an effort to look
attractive, don't lose your effort or make yourself feel you are
unattractive, because most of the time it is simply not true.
I want to be close to my husband but its
very difficult.
You should be going out and having a good
time together every now and then, he should be taking you and the baby
out sometimes and other times maybe getting a babysitter in, so he can
take you out.
I'm not sure if my husband do find me
sexy, he says he does but I'm not sure. I want to understand men, or
could I say my husband. I just want the confident me.
After 14 years in a relationship men tend
to become complacent. They think she is not going to leave me and
he stops making a lot of effort. Men tend to forget that women like
constant romance and loving care, even after they have been together for
many years. A man should be supporting you and making you feel
good, and you should be able to speak to him but don't go on too much
about negative things, if he says you look good then there's no point in
going on about it and trying to get a different answer out of him.
He has answered that question once, so why bother yourself thinking that
he should be giving you a different answer.
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