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delicious on 10.02.06 I was with my ex for 5 years, he was my
best friend for 5 years before that, we had an amazing relationship he was the
best bloke in the world, but we were going through a rocky patch and I ended up
cheating on him a couple of times when I was drunk. I regret doing this because
I loved him so much, eventually he found out and finished with me, but I denied
everything for a while and then I couldn't take the guilt anymore and admitted
it, he said he was thankful for my honesty. We have been finished nearly a year
only 3 months after we finished he met another girl, but he keeps on contacting
me telling me he loves me so much and that he could never love anyone as much as
he loved me, that I broke his heart and he nearly killed himself over me. I
don't understand why he is saying all this stuff to me if he has got a new
girlfriend. Another thing I do some topless modelling which he didn't mind at
all, his new girlfriend isn't attractive at all, and he openly admitt! ed that
to me that he doesn't find her no where near as attractive as me. I also told
him that he was rubbish in bed, but that was after a very heated row between us,
but the truth was, he is crap in bed. Please help me, I love him so much and I
just don't know which way to turn.
Sam's replyAll relationships go
through rocky patches, but if a couple value their relationship, they will make
it work out. You said you cheated on him several times, your love for him
is deluding you into thinking you still want to get back with him. By
cheating on him, that indicates to me that you did not value your relationship
very much at all. You may think you do but if you value someone
enough to warrant a relationship, you would not risk everything and cheat on
someone, especially several times. This just emphasizes that you were not
meant to be and any amount of times you get back together it is always going to
go pear shaped in the end.
I personally would have ditched you for cheating on me once, never mind
several times. There would be no second chances, because what would happen
is you would get back with me and eventually cheat on me again. That is an
opinion I would hold with any woman, whether good looking or not.
It is very difficult to cut ties with someone you have loved for a lot of
years. That goes for the man and woman in the relationship. That is
why you are experiencing difficulties deciding one way or the other.
Because both of you will be remembering the good times just as much as the bad
times.
You said "I don't understand why he is saying all
this stuff to me if he has got a new girlfriend." Most likely because he does
not value his new girlfriend as much as you. But he is deluding himself
that your relationship could work again. He spent lots of good times with
you and you were good looking and they are the points he will be thinking about.
Not realising that if he gets back with you again, he will just have to put up
with you having further affairs, because you are not entirely happy with him.
You said "I also told him that he was rubbish in
bed, but that was after a very heated row between us, but the truth was, he is
crap in bed." Again you are just emphasizing the fact you were not made
for each other. If you can't enjoy sex together then there is little
chance you are going to enjoy the rest of your life together. He is not
good a sex for a reason, because he is not your type of bloke. He can
probably find another woman suited to his needs that would enjoy having sex with
him. But there is no bond with you both.
Advice: Turn away, everything about this relationship past and present
seems to be a rocky patch. I don't understand why you would possibly
consider going back to him or why he would possibly consider going back to you.
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