Fit 'N' Frustrated on 19.09.2005
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, although
recently we have been going through a rough patch (i.e. no sex!)
Over the past 2 months I have become crazily attracted to this guy who works at
my gym. The first time I met him we were chatting and he made a reference to his
girlfriend. I am assuming they are still together, but I don't know what their
situation is. I have never mentioned to him that I have a boyfriend.
I am crazy about him. I think he is interested in me too, but I am really crap
at reading the signs! I always think people are just being really friendly (I
myself often get accused of flirting with people when I am just being friendly);
how can I tell the difference? And how can I let him know that I am very
interested in him without embarrassing myself? I feel I have been out of the
dating game for so long I have become a bit clueless. We did go for a coffee
after our last workout and he kissed me goodbye on the cheek, but couldn't that
just be him being friendly??
Sam's
Response
For Fit N Frustrated
Men often tell women they have got a girlfriend, because women seem to find men
more attractive if they already have a girlfriend (women may deny that fact but
it is true, believe me).
You say: "I always think people are just being really friendly (I myself often
get accused of flirting with people when I am just being friendly); how can I
tell the difference?"
Men very rarely flirt very well with women they don't fancy. And if men are not
interested at all in a woman, they generally won't make any effort to speak or
flirt with them.
"We did go for a coffee after our last workout and he kissed me goodbye on the
cheek, but couldn't that just be him being friendly?" Do men go out and have
coffee with any woman they set their eyes on? Do men kiss any minging woman on
the cheek? I don't think so, if he kissed you on the cheek, he is either gay or
he finds you attractive.
So next time you see him, after the workout, ask him if he wants to go for
another coffee.
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