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flowerxxx on 31/03/2006
My man moved in 3 years ago and keeps
saying he loves me. BUT when i talk about marriage he says when he has
got money !
Quite a few men, hate marriage. It
means he loses his independence, loses most of his money and ties him
down to one woman for the rest of his life. If there is a divorce
he is the one to lose most of his money. For those reasons men tend
to only marry a woman when they are completely sure about the
woman. But in general, even if he is completely sure about the
woman, he doesn't particularly want to go through the fuss and hassle and
money spending of a marriage.
But you say he moved in 3 years ago, and
I'm guessing you probably knew each other a while before that. So I would
say this man should be showing some commitment by now, you should be
married or at least planning the day. True, he will be anxious
about money, and will want the wedding to be a good day for everyone, it
would be embarrassing to a man to have a low budget wedding. And
let's face it women, usually have high expectations on their wedding day,
usually expectations far beyond a man's finances.
Our sex life is crap 1 a week.
He is obviously not satisfying you in bed,
so you need to either entice him to be more adventurous or tell him your
not getting enough satisfaction. You could change to sexy
underwear, see if that entices him, you could ask him about his fantasies
and see if you fancy acting out any of them. You could check out
his favourite porn and see what he likes and see if you can entice him to
act out that, as long as you fancy acting it out of course. I
wouldn't say that once a week for someone living together is particularly
bad. But obviously this is not enough for you, so you need to sort
that out in some way.
He always says hes tired, he is overweight
and blames that.
That's no excuse, he can burn off some
calories by sorting you out with some hot sex.
He does not contribute to household
bills,
This guy is sounding more like a leech
now, why is he living with you. Why don't you ditch him and find another
bloke. Not enough sex, overweight, crap sex when you do get it,
tired all the time and he doesn't even contribute to the bills.
and most of all what upsets me is porn. I
am no prude but the thought of him getting all these sex emails and not
wanting sex with me is quite upsetting.
Most blokes like porn, in fact you will
struggle to find a bloke that doesn't like porn. Porn is just pure
fantasy, there is very little chance a bloke will get to perform those
fantasies unless they become a porn star. Most girlfriends or wives
will not want to perform the acts that you see in a porn video, though
sometimes men get disillusioned and think that women do like performing
the sort of things that are seen in porn videos.
I always think, that porn is best kept
away from a woman. Male porn is for men only and can easily make
most women feel a bit sick. There are some women that like porn,
but it tends not to be the same type of porn that men like. For
this reason, I always recommend to men, to keep their porn away from
their women.
Porn should not be a bad thing, but it
often turns out to be. It puts unnecessary pressure on women to
perform the sex acts that the men see in these videos. The good
thing about porn, is it teaches men to be more adventurous in bed, it's
like a sex education. So as long as he judges what real women like,
it should teach him to be more adventurous in bed. It also relieves
a man's when he is not getting any sex, a man that can't relieve himself
could turn out to be completely dangerous to women.
I am brunnet and a while ago he said to
me his preference was slim blondes !!!
Let's face it, it sounds like he will struggle
to attract any women. It sounds like he is overweight, lazy and
crap at sex. So what's the chance he is going to find a slim
blonde. It is just pure fantasy, loads of people including women
fancy celebrities, what's the chance of us getting with a celebrity.
I do love him. But am starting to feel a
bit used. I do everything for him. And dont get back.
You may love him, because you have spent
so much time with him. But he is not fulfilling your needs in any
respect, so there comes a time when you need to give him a kick up the
arse or a kick out of the house and find some better bloke.
I know a lot of men look at porn. But i
have told him how i feel and he just says, he is an adult and can do if
he wants.
Yes, and your an adult and
can do what you want, you can find a better bloke.
If you watch this porn
with him, a few things to try is to ask if you can stimulate him while he
is watching it, or even try and distract him by stimulating
yourself. But in general it sounds like you need a replacement male
model, because he is getting old, rusty and running out of steam.
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