My man moved in 3 years ago and keeps saying he loves me. BUT when i talk about marriage he says when he has got money !
Quite a few men, hate marriage. It means he loses his independence, loses most of his money and ties him down to one woman for the rest of his life. If there is a divorce he is the one to lose most of his money. For those reasons men tend to only marry a woman when they are completely sure about the woman. But in general, even if he is completely sure about the woman, he doesn't particularly want to go through the fuss and hassle and money spending of a marriage.
But you say he moved in 3 years ago, and I'm guessing you probably knew each other a while before that. So I would say this man should be showing some commitment by now, you should be married or at least planning the day. True, he will be anxious about money, and will want the wedding to be a good day for everyone, it would be embarrassing to a man to have a low budget wedding. And let's face it women, usually have high expectations on their wedding day, usually expectations far beyond a man's finances.
Our sex life is crap 1 a week.
He is obviously not satisfying you in bed, so you need to either entice him to be more adventurous or tell him your not getting enough satisfaction. You could change to sexy underwear, see if that entices him, you could ask him about his fantasies and see if you fancy acting out any of them. You could check out his favourite porn and see what he likes and see if you can entice him to act out that, as long as you fancy acting it out of course. I wouldn't say that once a week for someone living together is particularly bad. But obviously this is not enough for you, so you need to sort that out in some way.
He always says hes tired, he is overweight and blames that.
That's no excuse, he can burn off some calories by sorting you out with some hot sex.
He does not contribute to household bills,
This guy is sounding more like a leech now, why is he living with you. Why don't you ditch him and find another bloke. Not enough sex, overweight, crap sex when you do get it, tired all the time and he doesn't even contribute to the bills.
and most of all what upsets me is porn. I am no prude but the thought of him getting all these sex emails and not wanting sex with me is quite upsetting.
Most blokes like porn, in fact you will struggle to find a bloke that doesn't like porn. Porn is just pure fantasy, there is very little chance a bloke will get to perform those fantasies unless they become a porn star. Most girlfriends or wives will not want to perform the acts that you see in a porn video, though sometimes men get disillusioned and think that women do like performing the sort of things that are seen in porn videos.
I always think, that porn is best kept away from a woman. Male porn is for men only and can easily make most women feel a bit sick. There are some women that like porn, but it tends not to be the same type of porn that men like. For this reason, I always recommend to men, to keep their porn away from their women.
Porn should not be a bad thing, but it often turns out to be. It puts unnecessary pressure on women to perform the sex acts that the men see in these videos. The good thing about porn, is it teaches men to be more adventurous in bed, it's like a sex education. So as long as he judges what real women like, it should teach him to be more adventurous in bed. It also relieves a man's when he is not getting any sex, a man that can't relieve himself could turn out to be completely dangerous to women.
I am brunnet and a while ago he said to me his preference was slim blondes !!!
Let's face it, it sounds like he will struggle to attract any women. It sounds like he is overweight, lazy and crap at sex. So what's the chance he is going to find a slim blonde. It is just pure fantasy, loads of people including women fancy celebrities, what's the chance of us getting with a celebrity.
I do love him. But am starting to feel a bit used. I do everything for him. And dont get back.
You may love him, because you have spent so much time with him. But he is not fulfilling your needs in any respect, so there comes a time when you need to give him a kick up the arse or a kick out of the house and find some better bloke.
I know a lot of men look at porn. But i have told him how i feel and he just says, he is an adult and can do if he wants.
