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All I can say is be yourself and be relaxed.

You haven't gave me much detail about your Previous meetings, how you met, what he is Like. 

But you indicated he is shy.  And that indicates To me you will have to do more of the legwork with Him, than you do with most guys.  Most shy guys will Not be comfortable with meeting and talking to ladies In public places, if there are other people present. 

Shy does not mean he lacks self confidence.  ItGenerally means he is not particularly good in Social situations but is most probably confident At other things.  Being able to converse well is A talent just as much as everything else, and as he is shy, his talents obviously lie elsewhere. 

You need to get him on his own, in a comfortable Atmosphere where he can feel free to talk.  Often You can get shy people talking quite a lot, if they Feel comfortable talking to you.  But don't forcefully Push him into any situation, if he feels he is being Pushed into a corner so you can have a conversation With him, he might get a bit scared.  You have to Do it tactfully. 

He needs to know that you want to speak to him.  Often women have this habit of saying I'm not going To speak to him, because I'll look desperate, he'll Have to come and speak to me (Any Excuse to make the Man do the work, basically).  With a shy guy, you Have to go to him, until he begins to realise, you Actually want to talk to him, so he will eventually Start going to you.  But of course don't excessively Hinder him and cling to him too much in the early Stages. 

Give him some confidence, that you are interested in What he has to say and that you are interested in His talents.  Pay him complements about his talents, A few but not too many.   

You said: "I have been given signals from him that would suggest that he both likes me and doesn't!" 

All men go hot and cold.  This doesn't mean he doesn't like you.  Most Men go hot and cold because women tend to respond more to that. 

With him he might just be thinking, she probably isn't that interested In me, or he is maybe having a bad day, or maybe some other woman has Gave him some agro (so he's thinking I want to be single for the rest Of my life). 

You said: "I just don't have the guts to get knocked back bye a guy i really like!" 

Not very many women do have the guts to get knocked back, too many make Excuses and lose their chance. The fact is that if you do get knocked back, There are plenty of other guys out their.  And even if they find out you've Been knocked back, it won't mean that the ones that fancy you will not Fancy you anymore because you got knocked back from someone else.   

Women Tend to be much more socially intelligent than men, and therefore can Work around the situation much easier by not directly asking a man out, or Pretending that they were only joking when they asked them out. 

One of the most common things women do, is drop hints like "I fancy Going to see X at the cinema", or you asking him what he is doing this Weekend and he says "Going to the football match" and you say "I've Always wanted to see what's it like at a football match". 

But you can also engage in flirty, suggestive jokes.  Blokes like these Type of jokes as long as it doesn't suggest that you are a bit of a tart. 

A few other suggestions are to touch him.  You might be in conversation And briefly touch his arm, his back, his shoulder.  Or you may get a Bit playful with him and nudge him in the shoulder, if he is joking.  If you are in A crowded place you may want to brush past him, making sure the Maximum amount of your body ends up touching him.  He has to take Notice of you after that, and it is something you can do quickly, By the time he has looked around to see who it is, you can be in The distance, he'll know it is you but you both avoid the Embarrassment of some close contact (because it is brief).   

Don't do touching forcefully and because he is shy it is probably best not to do any touching without you having the ability to leave the situation, Because he might become uncomfortable.  It is up to you to judge the Best time to do the touching, when you feel right and comfortable.

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