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judy on 31/10/2006
1)How can an attractive, shy girl
make herself seem more approachable to shy and confident guys?
I thinks it's a case of dressing
in the right clothes and acting like your confident. Confident
women look attractive, a woman that dresses in the right clothes
demonstrates a confident and attractive woman. Although your shy,
you can smile and give a guy a bit of brief eye contact (not a full on
aggressive stare, just brief spells of eye contact). You have to
look happy, confident and fairly sexy to get anywhere.
You can learn a lot from what
other women do. A lot of women tend to quite frankly treat guys
like crap, when they approach them. Like saying "get lost
loser" "do I look desperate", or walking off, pulling
faces and various other things. Sometimes men deserve it, like when
they make a stupid, corny reference to sex such as "Do your knickers
have a mirror in them, because I can see myself in them". But
other times, women are unnecessarily cruel when guys approach them.
And lets face it, women wouldn't like it, if they did the same to
them. If other men see you doing nasty things like this, they are
hardly likely to be encouraged to approach you themselves. You can
learn from this, and be friendly to guys (but not too friendly!).
You shouldn't just open up
straight away to a guy, but simply make yourself approachable and if
you don't like him, gently let him down by giving a signal to your
friends to drag you away. Many women don't make themselves
approachable, by blanking a bloke. It's very important you look
happy and are dressed to impress, this will give you essential
confidence, whilst also getting yourself noticed by men.
In general you need practice
talking to blokes, and building up your confidence. See it as a
challenge, the guys that you talk to may not be attractive at first buy
build yourself up to that. It doesn't have to be nightclubs or pubs
where you chat to men, you could have a go in the supermarket, on the
bus, at the gym, wherever (these are usually better places than nightclubs)
But also these guys may have attractive friends that they can introduce
you to. Always be ready to make a conversation with a guy, if a guy
asks a question don't just answer with a snappy Yes or No, take the
conversation further.
2) what do most guys prefer in terms
of the way girls dress. Do they prefer a girly girl or someone who
dresses more casual exp: jeans and a T-shirt and natural makeup?
There are a lot of factors that
are involved with what women wear.
These are some of the factors:
- What
colour hair you have - Blondes and brunettes tend to suit different
colours.
- What
shape body you have - Wearing a crop top is not a good idea if you
are self-concious about your waistline
- Where
you are going - Wearing jeans to a wedding is not really
appropriate, but wearing a posh dress for the local pub is equally
not appropriate
- What
you feel comfortable in - confidence is an important thing, if you
look confident, you can often look good in even the worst
outfit. That's where comfortable comes in, if you feel
comfortable in an outfit you will generally look confident. I
always think the worse sights are when women are waddling like
a duck because their wearing uncomfortable shoes or they are
constantly nervously tugging their skirt down because they are
wearing too short a skirt. It really isn't a pretty sight.
- In
general, T-shirts are alright, but I'm not too keen on jeans.
Unless you have the right bum and legs you can't really get away
with wearing jeans. And jeans are very manly.
- What
is better than jeans, is a nice smooth material trousers.
Something that a guy would want to rub his hands down without
getting a friction burn (like with jeans). So a satin, silky
material is good.
- T-shirts
it depends on the design, fit and the colour. All of which
have to suit you.
I prefer my ladies in feminine
outfits, dresses/skirts, smooth feeling outfits, colours that suit that
women, but pink is one of my favourites. But you can't wear a
completely pink outfit (like pink trousers and pink top together (you'd
look life the pink panther!), so you have to get the blend right).
And some women probably don't suit pink.
As far as makeup is concerned, you
should always be careful you use the right amount. Too much make-up
will make you look like a clown. Make-up can be very good at hiding
things you want to hide and emphasizing things you want to
emphasize. In general lipstick is essential, but you have to be
careful you get the right shade and not too much, because as I say you
might end up looking like a clown. Eye shadow, again is very
positive if you want a guy to look into your eyes. But again don't
overdo it, otherwise you will end up looking like you've been in the
boxing ring. Blusher is particularly good for women that have pale
faces or want to hide unwanted blemishes, but again you don't want to
look like a clown by putting too much on. Foundation, I am not too
keen on because if you get close up it looks like the woman has put
cement on her face, and if you kiss them all you can feel is a thick
layer of the foundation, and it doesn't taste very nice.
In general though the only way of
telling whether a woman suits something is to actually see it on her.
I have several sections on my web
site that discusses what women can wear, you will get more information on
these pages:
One is the Fashion picker dress
section: Dress Section (you will see my favourite dress there,
which is pink)
Another section is: Does my bum look big in this? (I found not many women wanted their pictures
posted and criticised on the web site, so I now offer a confidential
service where I will review their outfits by e-mail, but I do have the
reviews of 2 ladies outfits on this section of my web site, you might
want to check out my comments).
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here to Ask Sam some questions
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