1)How can an attractive, shy girl make herself seem more approachable to shy and confident guys?

I thinks it's a case of dressing in the right clothes and acting like your confident.  Confident women look attractive, a woman that dresses in the right clothes demonstrates a confident and attractive woman.  Although your shy, you can smile and give a guy a bit of brief eye contact (not a full on aggressive stare, just brief spells of eye contact).  You have to look happy, confident and fairly sexy to get anywhere.

You can learn a lot from what other women do.  A lot of women tend to quite frankly treat guys like crap, when they approach them.  Like saying "get lost loser" "do I look desperate", or walking off, pulling faces and various other things.  Sometimes men deserve it, like when they make a stupid, corny reference to sex such as "Do your knickers have a mirror in them, because I can see myself in them".  But other times, women are unnecessarily cruel when guys approach them.  And lets face it, women wouldn't like it, if they did the same to them.  If other men see you doing nasty things like this, they are hardly likely to be encouraged to approach you themselves.  You can learn from this, and be friendly to guys (but not too friendly!). 

You shouldn't just open up straight away to a guy, but simply make yourself approachable and if you don't like him, gently let him down by giving a signal to your friends to drag you away.  Many women don't make themselves approachable, by blanking a bloke.  It's very important you look happy and are dressed to impress, this will give you essential confidence, whilst also getting yourself noticed by men.

In general you need practice talking to blokes, and building up your confidence.  See it as a challenge, the guys that you talk to may not be attractive at first buy build yourself up to that.  It doesn't have to be nightclubs or pubs where you chat to men, you could have a go in the supermarket, on the bus, at the gym, wherever (these are usually better places than nightclubs)  But also these guys may have attractive friends that they can introduce you to.  Always be ready to make a conversation with a guy, if a guy asks a question don't just answer with a snappy Yes or No, take the conversation further.

2) what do most guys prefer in terms of the way girls dress. Do they prefer a girly girl  or someone who dresses more casual exp: jeans and a T-shirt and natural makeup?

There are a lot of factors that are involved with what women wear.

These are some of the factors:

• What colour hair you have - Blondes and brunettes tend to suit different colours.
• What shape body you have - Wearing a crop top is not a good idea if you are self-concious about your waistline
• Where you are going - Wearing jeans to a wedding is not really appropriate, but wearing a posh dress for the local pub is equally not appropriate
• What you feel comfortable in - confidence is an important thing, if you look confident, you can often look good in even the worst outfit.  That's where comfortable comes in, if you feel comfortable in an outfit you will generally look confident.  I always think the worse sights are when women are waddling like a duck because their wearing uncomfortable shoes or they are constantly nervously tugging their skirt down because they are wearing too short a skirt.  It really isn't a pretty sight.
• In general, T-shirts are alright, but I'm not too keen on jeans.  Unless you have the right bum and legs you can't really get away with wearing jeans.  And jeans are very manly.
• What is better than jeans, is a nice smooth material trousers.  Something that a guy would want to rub his hands down without getting a friction burn (like with jeans).  So a satin, silky material is good.
• T-shirts it depends on the design, fit and the colour.  All of which have to suit you.

I prefer my ladies in feminine outfits, dresses/skirts, smooth feeling outfits, colours that suit that women, but pink is one of my favourites.  But you can't wear a completely pink outfit (like pink trousers and pink top together (you'd look life the pink panther!), so you have to get the blend right).  And some women probably don't suit pink.

As far as makeup is concerned, you should always be careful you use the right amount.  Too much make-up will make you look like a clown.  Make-up can be very good at hiding things you want to hide and emphasizing things you want to emphasize.  In general lipstick is essential, but you have to be careful you get the right shade and not too much, because as I say you might end up looking like a clown.  Eye shadow, again is very positive if you want a guy to look into your eyes.  But again don't overdo it, otherwise you will end up looking like you've been in the boxing ring.  Blusher is particularly good for women that have pale faces or want to hide unwanted blemishes, but again you don't want to look like a clown by putting too much on.  Foundation, I am not too keen on because if you get close up it looks like the woman has put cement on her face, and if you kiss them all you can feel is a thick layer of the foundation, and it doesn't taste very nice.

In general though the only way of telling whether a woman suits something is to actually see it on her.

I have several sections on my web site that discusses what women can wear, you will get more information on these pages:

One is the Fashion picker dress section: Dress Section  (you will see my favourite dress there, which is pink)

Another section is: Does my bum look big in this? (I found not many women wanted their pictures posted and criticised on the web site, so I now offer a confidential service where I will review their outfits by e-mail, but I do have the reviews of 2 ladies outfits on this section of my web site, you might want to check out my comments).

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