Sam's Response

Hi lara
You said "we just fell asleep in the spooning position. Then he stayed till late afternoon watching dvds, we swapped numbers." Sounds like the guy, most women dream of. It is a pity you are not looking for a serious relationship. For you to meet someone at a party, take him back to your house, not have sex, but to fall to sleep in an intimate position, just seems like a match made in heaven so far. Then to add to that the fact that he stayed until afternoon and watched dvds (What a man!).

You said "So how do I get him interested in "dirty weekends" without actually having to ask him" Well all you need to do is to exchange some boring texts ("How are you doing? What are you getting up to at the moment?"). After a few texts one of you is going to crack and ask to meet up for a drink or meal or whatever.

After a great night out, it is bound to end up back at your place or his place. There is no need to be pushy, it will happen, when it happens. But make sure you give him a few vital clues that you want to get physical. Like touching him, starting off, just on the arm or somewhere non intimate, not forceful touches, just naturally touching when you are talking to him.

The important part is don't be pushy, don't look desperate, don't be aggressive, just move slowly.

You said "how do I get him interested in a bit of naughtiness, so he actually thinks up the idea himself" I really can't imagine him, not thinking of being naughty. It is one of the things a man is guaranteed to think about every day for most of the day. And I am sure he has thought of being naughty with you. You just have to give him that chance to be naughty, and show you are interested without looking desperate.

The fact is, it is about him making the rights moves at the right time and you making the right moves at the right time. You have to be synchronized with each others feelings and make the right physical and verbal moves at the right time.

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