I'm 19 and i went on holiday to ibiza. I met a guy who is a photographer and entertainer at my hotel he would touch my hair and smile at me all the time then walk past and touch my cheek then me.
Sounds like a professional with the ladies. He's doing all the right things to get a woman to notice him and get a woman interested in him. All these combined suggest that he fancies you and wants to get down to intimate touching as soon as possible.
And all the entertainers went out to a night club i he sat next to me chatting to me then when i was in the night club my mum was there and the entertainers my he was dancing with me and chatting to me all night and my mum said she had to go and he said he would walk me back.
Again, it sounds as though he is super confident with women and making all the right moves.
We ended up kissing and dancing then i went back to his and we cuddled and kissed all night this went on all 4 days. He said he didnt want to get too close to me because he would fall for me.
Again he is playing all the right notes of a professional woman seducer. He didn't want to get too close to you, yet he spent most of his time with you (bit of a contradiction), this always sounds a bit irish to me, but quite a few professional seducers say that sort of thing.
He's playing a little bit of a game here, because he knows if he says this sort of thing it will make you more keen to have sex or a relationship with him. It puts into your mind that he is keen on a long term relationship, but knows that a long term relationship may not work, because you probably live too far away. And when some men say "I don't want to get too close to you because I might fall for you", it can sometimes mean don't get too disappointed if we have sex for a while and then we have to part and I don't see you again. But when others say it, they are trying to say "I really like you, but I don't want to look too desperate and I want to make you keener by making you think you have to work harder to convince him". And it also kind of pushes you into making a decision about whether he should fall for you or not.
The last night i went out with him to a pub around the corner so he could get something to eat. After work he walked me back and i ended up staying over at his and having sex, he didnt try it on, i did, i dont know why i have never done it before.
He had already worked on you, to get you to the point where you were just gagging for sex with him. First of all their was the playful touching and smiling, then there were the sweet moments of kissing and dancing, walking you home and back to his place a few times without sex. Then there was the moment where he put into your mind about falling for you, and then there was the fact that soon you would be going home. All this kind of presses a woman into a corner to take action quickly, because you've only got a limited time to have sex with him and he has made all the right moves.
To me this is actually the perfect progression for a relationship, up to the point where you had sex. If a man makes all those correct moves, he didn't rush you into having sex (he could have pushed you into having sex on the several nights preceding this). The problem came when you knew your holiday was over soon, it kind of rushed you into having sex, but this is what happens when women go on holiday, they only have up to two weeks to get to know a guy and it pushes the woman into rash decisions. As you say "he didn't try it on, I did, I don't know why I have never done it before". I can understand the fact that you didn't know why, because it probably just happened instinctively (you felt the need to have sex, there and then).
We then exchanged emails and numbers and we chat on msn he says he met a german girl there a year before me and that she came down after i left but he said her and him aren't going to work because its a long distance and he says he doesn't really miss her.
Yes, this will happen all the time. He is working in a resort and meeting loads of young women. Which is probably why he has made exactly the right moves on you, he has perfected his woman seducing powers and is super confident because of it. It sounds to me as though he can't wait to see you again, so he is trying to push you into coming back, by reminding you, he has no shortage of women available. (It may be fictional woman to make you jealous, but judging by the fact that he works in a holiday resort, I think he won't have any shortage of women).
I'm going back next year he keeps saying that i should come in sep when he isn't as busy because the season isn't high so we can spend more time together.
Really if you want to get anything out of this relationship, you need to see him soon (within a few months). The longer you leave it, the more likely he is to find an alternative (as he has been indirectly reminding you). And the more likely he is to get used to the fact that he might not see you again.
Really you need more time than two weeks holiday, to decide whether he is the right man, and really I would not have recommended you had sex so early on in a relationship (but also I don't blame you in this instance, because you would have instinctively wanted sex in those circumstances).
do you think he's just using me
I am more inclined to say, no he is not using you. He wanted to spend a lot of time with you. He made lots of effort to make sure he was doing the right things. He didn't rush you into having sex, in fact it sounds as though you instinctively let him.
The more risks he takes of losing you, the less he values your relationship. Rushing a woman into having sex is very risky and therefore the more a man rushes a woman into having sex, the less he values you as a long term relationship potential. In his case he didn't take those risks because it sounds as though you made the move eventually, so this is a good sign, he waited for you to make the decision.
or do you think he really likes me and could we have a relationship
It depends where he lives. If he is from the UK and lives within 50 miles of your home and is coming home in the next few years, there is a chance of a relationship. There is a good chance you could have a relationship when he comes back home. If he lives in Ibiza permanently, then there is less chance, because he might meet someone else and won't get to spend that much time with you.
He definitely likes you in some way. The thing about guys that work in these resorts, is they have no shortage of women. So to actually make an effort to stay in contact with you, is a very good sign. Because if he didn't like you that much, he could have just thought, I've used her for sex, now I'll move onto my next target. But he hasn't done this, he has actively stayed in contact with you. And is trying his best to make sure he bribes you into coming back to see him soon.
also do u have any tips that i could say to make him want me more?
There is really no need for me to give you any tips. He wants more anyway!
P.S. Well one tip! Don't start going on about the fact that he might get with some other woman. This will either play into his hands, so he knows he has a hold on you, or it will strongly irritate him, that you are paranoid about him getting with other women. It will signify that your maybe over-possessive! There should be no problem with mentioning this occasionally, but to go on about it might annoy him quite a bit (believe me, women and men usually do end up going on about it). In reality, you have to trust him, you will only find out whether you trust him, when you have got to know him a bit better.
