i asked my boyfriend if he had masturbated about any other girl while we were together he said he had
It was a silly question to ask a bloke, to be honest, particularly as you did not want him to answer with a yes. When guys go out with women it does not stop them fancying other women. I am sure when women go out with men it doesn't stop them fancying other men. Most men will just lie and say no, because they know this is a loaded question. He actually said yes, so he was being honest.
I know it sounds like a big thing to masturbate about another woman, when your going out with a lady, but the fact is he could be watching porn and be masturbating over that as well. Just because he's masturbating about another woman doesn't mean he does not fancy you. Did you ask him, if he had masturbated about you? And it does not mean he is going to end up with this woman, this woman that he was masturbating over probably doesn't fancy him or has a boyfriend already. I just think it was a question that was best not asked.
and i got upset i didnt no he was like that
Like what? He is a man, men masturbate, men fancy women.
and why he did it i feel ugly now
Why do you feel ugly? He didn't exactly say you look ugly, he just admitted to masturbating about another woman. He wouldn't or shouldn't be going out with you if he finds you ugly.
and i dnt think he fancys me i jst think he likes my personality
I can't really tell you whether he fancies you or your personality, that is up to you to judge.
but i want him to fancy me to
Wait a minute, has he said he doesn't fancy you?
he said hes sorry
I don't think he really needed to say sorry. He hasn't done much wrong. If he was having an affair with this other woman, then I could understand that he would need to apologise and you should ditch him, but he isn't having an affair.
and he loves me and it was a mistake but i feel like he would do it again
Then let him do it again, it is not going to do much harm for him to be masturbating about another woman. Just stop asking him that question and then you won't know about it.
how can i know if he really fancys me
A few good ways to work out whether he fancies you (this is based on somebody you've been going out with for a while):
1) Does he like to spend a lot of time with you? Or is it just sex and then he disappears?
2) Does he do everyday things with you, like going shopping? Or does he try to avoid these things?
3) Does he communicate with you a lot? Does he listen to you and talk to you about his life?
4) Does he like to kiss you for a long time? Or is it just brief kissing?
5) Does he do nice things for you or buy you the occasional treat?
