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puzzled  on  09/04/2006

I'm curious as to why you're being so kind as to run this website for free. Cos you're a nice bloke?

I am a nice bloke.... but it's not just because I'm a nice bloke.

Cos this is your area of interest?

This web site evolved from my blog, which I produced for a bit of fun and because I fancied having a go at producing a popular web site.  The inspiration for my blog came from the ladies I work with.  They often talk about men, saying they just don't understand how men think.  They fail to understand why men do and say things, they fail to understand why men don't understand them and don't do things their way.  So from that I had a unique idea for my blog, very few men will give up their deep thoughts about women, and some men don't really understand how their unconscious brains deal with women.

I have been reading books about body language and relationships since I was about 16, I've always been interested in the subject, but my job is nowhere near related to this subject.  Over the years I have also kept a watchful eye on my friends experiences and indeed my experiences with women and that helps me produce a better picture of how different men treat and think about women.

The blog started off, just as a series of articles, I wasn't expecting ladies to submit their questions, nor was I that prepared for the amount of time it would take me to respond to their questions.  What happened with the blog, was one of my articles became so popular (the one titled "How do you tell if a guy fancies you?").  It made the blog unmanageable because the page where ladies submitted their questions/comments just became too long.  For that reason I decided I needed to produce my own web site to make the size and format of the pages more manageable. 

Yes it is quite expensive to run this web site (but I have plenty of money), and yes it takes up a lot of my spare time, but it is also a lot of fun.  The fun comes from women, saying they enjoy my web site and appreciate my web site and keep coming back, but it is also fun reading about different women's situation.  In person a woman would not normally be as honest or detailed about their situation, but because this site is anonymous and they are unlikely to ever meet me, they are free to say whatever they want.

Anyway, I need a guy's opinion on this. I have beautiful legs and believe that they look best in short skirts.

I always say that you should hide the bad parts of your body and show off the good parts.

However, I've heard recently from my girlfriends that tight jeans make them look better. Are they being envious?!

I don't think many women are ever a good judgement on what men like, or indeed whether a lady looks pretty or not.  I can't count the number of times I have heard a woman say something looks good on a woman or a woman looks pretty when they look quite dreadful.  It is true that different men, like different things, but overall all men that see a nice pair of legs or boobs are going to take notice.

I can't really tell you whether they are being envious or not, because I am not the best judge of a woman's actions, I'm more a better judge of what men are thinking.

Certainly if you asked men, whether they wanted to see you in a pair of jeans, or whether they wanted to see your legs (if they are a nice pair), they would want to see your legs, believe me.

I feel that jeans hide the legs, but on the other hand, people often say it's better to leave it to a guy's imagination by hiding them.

No, not always the case, if you want to get noticed, then show them off.  I wouldn't recommend an extremely short skirt though, it tends to make a woman look a bit of a tart, particularly if it is a tight skirt.  But certainly if you show some leg, then he will be imagining what the rest of your leg looks like.

Anyway, what do you think? Short skirts or tight jeans? (Oh I have a nice bum too, so look nice in jeans).

I don't think there is really any right answer here.  Different women look good in different things.  You have got to show off your assets and hide your bad points.  But ultimately you want him looking at your face and talking to you.  So once you've got his attention attracted to you, you want him to warm to your personality, not your legs, your bum or your boobs.  To make a proper judgement I would have to see you, I can't guess or imagine what you would look like because every woman is different (I'm not expecting you to submit any photos, I'm just saying I would have to see to make a proper judgement).

The other dilemmas are boots or high heels, and black or skin colour tights?

Boots, I tend not to be a great fan of, they tend to make a woman look like a tart looking for a shag (sorry, that's my opinion).  Attractive to guys that just want a shag but not so attractive to guys that want a long term relationship.

 Black or skin colour tights? Well that just depends on the outfit and what suits the outfit and where you are going out to.  I can't answer that one, unless I see the whole outfit.

If black tights, do guys prefer thin or thick ones?

Guys tend to prefer thin ones, they can see your flesh through them, thick ones are for old women that want to keep their legs warm.

I know it depends on the outfit, etc., but would nevertheless appreciate your opinion.


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