I have known this guy for a few months but we only get see each other in our local pub about once every one or two weeks. We both got on very well, although it is always hard to tell if he has any feelings for me other than friendship. Anyway, on valentines day I sent him a really nice card and made a sweet poem up telling him that I would like a date with him.

Men are generally not that keen on poems, particularly sweet poems.

I did not sign the card and in fact it could have been from anyone.

Not a good idea, to a woman it would be: Wow, I've received a valentines from a mystery man, I wonder who he is, how exciting.

To a man it would be: someone is playing games, winding me up, teasing me, I can't stand silly games.  It could be anyone it could be his mates winding him up.  In conclusion men think differently to women, and in this case men hate valentines cards that are not signed.

I saw him again yesterday, almost 2 weeks after the card was sent. Only when he saw me he seemed a bit embarrassed, which made me act the same.

He may have found the card a bit creepy.  Or you may be reading too much into his behaviour, or you may have acted embarrassed at first.  In many ways he doesn't know whether it is you, so is bound to be embarrassed, he still doesn't know whether you fancy him or not or whether it was another woman who sent it.  So he is bound to be a bit uneasy, even if he does fancy you.

It was nothing that was in the card as I kept it very sweet and in a poem mentioned I liked him and wished he would ask me out.

Poems, valentines cards, sweet, they are all womens things. Yes a man will be chuffed if he gets a valentines card from a woman he fancies, but he'd rather you have just asked him out rather than sent him a valentines card.  Valentines day is for women, not for men.  For men it a potential day to ask a woman out and break the ice.  But men want women, they don't particularly want to have to send them cards or presents.  And the certainly don't get amazingly excited about receiving a valentines card.  Unless they have not had many girlfriends in the past.

I thought if nothing else he would have been chuffed to receive a valentine. I think he has guessed it was from me. Although I didnt know his address, or his surname, but got it by chance, through listening in on a conversation (very discreetly was listening) it should have t! hrown him off the scent.

May have creeped him out more than anything else, some stalker has found out his address.

But it could be that I am imagining it all.

Yes, it could be, because women read more into a situation than what is actually happening, in most cases they miss the obvious and produce a fantasy story to explain what has happened. it is usually a simple explanation, because men don't play as many games as women do.

However, i do now feel as though I wish I hadnt sent it cos it may have changed things between us. What do you suggest I should do now. Just let things blow over?

Just go back to how it was before and be friendly with him.  That is how you find out whether he fancies you or not.  It is a gradual process, where you get to know each other and eventually one of you makes a move.

One thing about it, maybe he didnt like me after all, and at least I know that now or I am sure he would have used it to his advantage if had been shy in asking me out. Is that what you would presume.

I wouldn't presume anything in this situation.  You have sent a valentines card from nobody, you think he is being funny with you.  Now you think he doesn't fancy me,  you haven't gave me any reason to believe that he does or doesn't fancy you.