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tink on 10/12/2006
why do young men seem to be
attracted to dumb fake girls so much? guys claim that they want an
intelligent girl, but from what i see, cocky girls that strive for
attention get all the guys.
It's a debatable subject, but I'll
try to make some sense of it.
Men tend to like women that are
good socially, a woman that can talk basically. Communicating is
one of a guys weak areas, for this reason he needs the help of a woman to
bring interesting conversation and allow him to add to that conversation.
Talking is also important if you start a family because women play an
important part in helping their children to talk. The other element
of it is having a fun time. Talking and conversation can be fun as
long as the other person has the same interests and has a rapport with
the other person. Again you can relate this back to bringing up
children, women play an important part in allowing their kids to have fun
through communication. I think there is a case for men confusing
intelligent women with women that have good communication skills.
What men really want is not an intelligent girl but a girl with good
communication skills.
Cocky girls can be seen as
fun. Fun to be with, fun in the future when you settle down and
have children. They can also prove to be an absolute pain after
going out with them for a while, but only spending some time with a woman
can prove that.
You say cocky girls get all the
attention. That statement says several things, it says that you
need to be cocky to get attention but also that maybe other women are not
making an effort to get a guys attention. You have to get someones
attention in order to stand any chance and you also have to signal a
friendliness. You only have to approach some women and you can tell
they are not worth it because they immediately say "get
lost loser", what man wants to be with a woman like that. So
do they approach a woman that is attracting attention and seems to be
friendly or do they approach a woman who is not attracting their
attention and who may well bite and snap if you approach them.
I think there are four types
of women that get a blokes attention, beautiful women, cocky women,
slapper women (sorry about slipping that name in) or women with
good communication skills. Beautiful women only the bravest men
will approach, because they see them as super human beings that are only
likely to want to talk to the most beautiful, hunky type of men.
Cocky women, although cocky attract your attention and show a willingness
to be communicated with. Slapper women, well guys just want to have
sex, don't they. Women with good communication skills, well a guy
can find a woman that has similar interests to him or can adapt her
conversation to talk about his interests, which means he can have fun
with this type of women and she will make him feel at ease by helping him
to communicate.
In your statement you also
emphasize 'young men'. This kind of indicates in my mind what most
young men go for. Most young men are not looking to get married or
for long term relationships (that's just too scarey at their age), they
are looking at shagging as many women as they can get their hands on
(sorry to put it that bluntly but I'm giving you the truth).
Therefore most young men are maybe approaching women who they see are
easier to get into bed whilst still being a attractive enough not to be
ridiculed by their friends or other women. Dumb fake, cocky girls
are maybe a young guys ideal target.
Young men also want to have fun
and cocky women can be seen as a source of fun. Cocky is one of the
sense of humours that men like displaying, unfortunately not too many
women like men to display this humour, so a man in the know tends to
suppress his cocky sense of humour. Whereas with these cocky women,
he can be equally cocky back to them.
There is also the point that women
tend to go exclusively for a certain type of men. You often see in
dating columns, the same boring profile of their ideal man (tall, dark,
handsome and GSOH). If you go into the nightclub for several weeks
you will often see the same faces each week. However the popular
men are getting off with a different woman each week, the unpopular men
are always left standing round consistently each week. It is my
opinion that there is a minority of men who have sex with a lot
of different women, and the majority of other men rarely
have any luck with women at all. So you have also got to ask
the question of whether your perception of men only going for dumb, fake,
cocky girls is because you are only looking at a certain type of man, the
same type of man that most other women go for. Therefore you are
dismissing the different guys who maybe don't go for the dumb, fake,
cocky girls.
Obviously this is the complete
reverse of your situation from a male perspective. You are talking
about blokes that constantly go for dumb, fake, cocky girls, I am talking
about girls that go for the same ego-centric, stereotypical womaniser,
bad boy that consistently use women for sex and then move onto their next
woman. Is it simply a problem that both male and females should
stop letting their friends tell them who is attractive and start
developing their own opinion of what males and females are attractive to
them?
In the long term though men are
looking for ideal partners to settle down and get married, so when a man
stops being young and daft he will be looking for intelligent
communicative women. Some men will even stumble across that type of
woman when they are being young and daft, she will then persuade him to
settle down and he will not want to lose her. Women have to come
along at the right time and prove the right things to a man in order for
this to happen. Different men seem to mature at different ages, and
some men don't mature at all and continue to use women for sex throughout
their life (or it may simply be that these men never find their
ideal women).
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