why do young men seem to be attracted to dumb fake girls so much? guys claim that they want an intelligent girl, but from what i see, cocky girls that strive for attention get all the guys.

It's a debatable subject, but I'll try to make some sense of it.

Men tend to like women that are good socially, a woman that can talk basically.  Communicating is one of a guys weak areas, for this reason he needs the help of a woman to bring interesting conversation and allow him to add to that conversation.  Talking is also important if you start a family because women play an important part in helping their children to talk.  The other element of it is having a fun time.  Talking and conversation can be fun as long as the other person has the same interests and has a rapport with the other person.  Again you can relate this back to bringing up children, women play an important part in allowing their kids to have fun through communication.  I think there is a case for men confusing intelligent women with women that have good communication skills.  What men really want is not an intelligent girl but a girl with good communication skills.

Cocky girls can be seen as fun.  Fun to be with, fun in the future when you settle down and have children.  They can also prove to be an absolute pain after going out with them for a while, but only spending some time with a woman can prove that.

You say cocky girls get all the attention.  That statement says several things, it says that you need to be cocky to get attention but also that maybe other women are not making an effort to get a guys attention.  You have to get someones attention in order to stand any chance and you also have to signal a friendliness.  You only have to approach some women and you can tell they are not worth it because they immediately say "get lost loser", what man wants to be with a woman like that.  So do they approach a woman that is attracting attention and seems to be friendly or do they approach a woman who is not attracting their attention and who may well bite and snap if you approach them.

I think there are four types of women that get a blokes attention, beautiful women, cocky women, slapper women (sorry about slipping that name in) or women with good communication skills.  Beautiful women only the bravest men will approach, because they see them as super human beings that are only likely to want to talk to the most beautiful, hunky type of men.  Cocky women, although cocky attract your attention and show a willingness to be communicated with.  Slapper women, well guys just want to have sex, don't they.  Women with good communication skills, well a guy can find a woman that has similar interests to him or can adapt her conversation to talk about his interests, which means he can have fun with this type of women and she will make him feel at ease by helping him to communicate.

In your statement you also emphasize 'young men'.  This kind of indicates in my mind what most young men go for.  Most young men are not looking to get married or for long term relationships (that's just too scarey at their age), they are looking at shagging as many women as they can get their hands on (sorry to put it that bluntly but I'm giving you the truth).  Therefore most young men are maybe approaching women who they see are easier to get into bed whilst still being a attractive enough not to be ridiculed by their friends or other women.  Dumb fake, cocky girls are maybe a young guys ideal target. 

Young men also want to have fun and cocky women can be seen as a source of fun.  Cocky is one of the sense of humours that men like displaying, unfortunately not too many women like men to display this humour, so a man in the know tends to suppress his cocky sense of humour.  Whereas with these cocky women, he can be equally cocky back to them.

There is also the point that women tend to go exclusively for a certain type of men.  You often see in dating columns, the same boring profile of their ideal man (tall, dark, handsome and GSOH).  If you go into the nightclub for several weeks you will often see the same faces each week.  However the popular men are getting off with a different woman each week, the unpopular men are always left standing round consistently each week.  It is my opinion that there is a minority of men who have sex with a lot of different women, and the majority of other men rarely have any luck with women at all.   So you have also got to ask the question of whether your perception of men only going for dumb, fake, cocky girls is because you are only looking at a certain type of man, the same type of man that most other women go for.  Therefore you are dismissing the different guys who maybe don't go for the dumb, fake, cocky girls. 

Obviously this is the complete reverse of your situation from a male perspective.  You are talking about blokes that constantly go for dumb, fake, cocky girls, I am talking about girls that go for the same ego-centric, stereotypical womaniser, bad boy that consistently use women for sex and then move onto their next woman.  Is it simply a problem that both male and females should stop letting their friends tell them who is attractive and start developing their own opinion of what males and females are attractive to them?

In the long term though men are looking for ideal partners to settle down and get married, so when a man stops being young and daft he will be looking for intelligent communicative women.  Some men will even stumble across that type of woman when they are being young and daft, she will then persuade him to settle down and he will not want to lose her.  Women have to come along at the right time and prove the right things to a man in order for this to happen.  Different men seem to mature at different ages, and some men don't mature at all and continue to use women for sex throughout their life (or it may simply be that these men never find their ideal women).

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