I have liked a man for well over a year - due to job restrictions I was never able to tell him how I felt.  I have now finished that job - so these restriction no longer apply.  In the last few months there, this man started to become very obvious in his affections for me.

He was asking the girl I sat next to all about me.  Finding out my background, whether I was coming in certain days, talking about me to her all of the time. The girls in my section all said he was seriously "in to me".

Well I'd believe what they were saying. 

When he was with me, he would always check me out - boobs, legs butt etc. And always found excuses to walk over to where I was working.  Sometimes when we were talking he would stare off into my eyes and seem lost for a little while and then almost as if he realised what he was doing "came back to earth". 

That means he was besotted just looking at you, so much so that he stopped concentrating on what you were saying and just slipped into a dream world.  Have you ever seen movies where someone spots someone they fancy across the room, all of a sudden everything goes quiet, the sound of her voice echoes, tunnel vision develops and music starts playing and all of a sudden there is a gust of wind.  They are trying to re-create the feeling of people that fall for each other in real life. 

He even went so far as playfully hitting me and teasing me about my age on my birthday - for example he wasn't sure if there was enough candles!!!!!!  I am 32 and he is 48 - so he is very cheeky!

The fact that he is significantly older would increase the chances of him fancying you, but also increase the chances of him thinking you don't fancy him.

Towards the end he was giving me very sweet compliments and emailed me at home to wish me a happy birthday even though he had already done it at work.

However, when I sent him the occasional email towards the end of the year he would not respond to me.  Yet, he would be talking to my work colleague about me and flirting with me.  One particular time I had emailed him about a football match he was playing in - I wished him luck and asked how it went. 

Did you put a question mark at the end of the sentence about how it went.  Some women ask questions but don't put the question mark. 

I didn't hear back but he came into the office the day after the match limping and asked if I was coming in that day. 

That explains it then, there's no point in replying to your email if he thinks he's going to see you the next day in the office.  It gives him something to talk to you about, if he emails you about it, he won't have anything to talk to you about the next day.  Plus he might not have read the email before that point. 

My colleague said not today and she asked why - he said he wanted a bloody good massage!

I have read some of your other articles and one lady who had written to you said her man became like a heat seeking missile with her -and that is exactly how my man was with me.

So from all of this positive feeling I am getting from him, why is it that he doesn't email me anymore.  He is on hols at the moment and he is due back on Wednesday - I sent him a happy new year email to his work email asking him lots of things etc... but I am guessing he may not have read it yet.

It's true he might not have read it yet.  So again you can rule that out.  I think you need to wait until a week after Wednesday, to allow him to get back catch up on his emails and work. 

But that is not the only one he didn't respond to - after he sent me my birthday one (december 3) he has not sent one since. I think I have sent him 3 others after the one he sent me for my birthday.  One was work related,

Ok he probably could have responded to this, unless he was seeing you in work and could respond to it in person and as long as you included questions in this email

one thanked him for his birthday wishes  and I told him how wonderful I thought he was for remembering my birthday and how very special he made me feel,

A thank you was enough, you didn't need to go on about how special he made you feel etc.  This he probably wouldn't have been able to respond to because it was simply a thank you email. 

and the other was the new year one I sent a couple of weeks ago.

Which you say he might not have read yet.

Should I assume that because he is not emailing me back - that he has changed his mind.  I can't understand how one minute he is seeking me out and the next he is not returning my emails.  Yet, before i left I would send him an email and then two days later we would be chatting and he would not even mention it.

No you shouldn't, you should be patient, wait for him to get back to work.  A week after he gets back if he hasn't sent you an email, send him an email with questions in it.

Now I am no longer at work with him - the restriction that was stopping us being together have gone.  I would ask him out - however I am not sure what he is thinking.

No need to ask him out yet, you priority at the moment is getting some contact with him and building up your relationship with him again.   

He does know how I feel about him - a male colleague opened his mouth months ago when I was talking about him to her and he overheard.

Thinking back - when we were talking he would look nervous in my presence around other people.  What does that mean - at the start of the year he was relaxed and towards the end he would sometimes appear nervous when we were talking in front of other people.

He knew that all the others knew he fancied you.  He will have wanted to retain his professionalism and also avoid everyone else chatting about you and him. 

Is it because he is embarassed about the fact that i like him?  When we were talking in agroup the girls all said it was as though he and i when the only ones in conversation.

So in your male opinion where do I sit with this man?

You need to be a bit more patient, wait for him to get back for at least a week, see if he emails you in that time.  If not email him and ask him a question, ask him a favour, if he's good at plumbing ask if he can come over and look at your u-bend, that sort of thing.  Maybe you know where he goes for lunch when he's at work, then you could go there, maybe you know where he plays football and go for a walk with a few of your friends to watch him.  Or maybe you can think of other ways of getting contact with him.

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