I am confused to whether my friend/previous work colleague has feelings for me.

This guy i used to work with (also a friend now) really confuses me. I've known him for a year and half. He is four years younger. At first, our relationship was like brother and sister, and we would both mention to others that we are close, like siblings. We know about each other's personality, interests, likes/dislikes etc.

We often sit with each other at lunch breaks at work and often joke around and playfully touch each other on the arm or he would have his arm around my shoulder for a short second. Somehow I don't remember when I started to have feelings for him, and this made me feel really moody one day, as he noticed I wasnt really playful or in my happy mood, he even came up to me and asked whether I was in a bad mood because of him. He is a really good listener and often remembers what I say in our conversations, as he recalls things I've said before.

Our friendship has always been a little playful, but recently a little flirty, such as he would quite often have his arm around my shoulder, massage my shoulders for a minute, rest his head on my shoulder, giggle at each other and whenever we happen to sit next to each other, we are seated closely. I remember once, a friend mentioned that I am really cute, and he just had this smile on his face when I was talking to my friend.

It maybe a case of you are such good friends he really can't make the move, because he feels he might ruin it.  Ultimately though, the best way to get him to make a move, is to see him outside of work as much as possible.  If he's away from his colleagues and away from work, he's more likely to make that final move, because there's nobody watching and nobody listening and it can be kept secret from work. 

As for me, I am quite a touchy person, I sometimes link my arm to his arm or touch him, which he doesn't seem to mind. There were a few occassions recently that I noticed he scanned from my head to my body, even though I dont have an attractive body.

How do you know? 

Also whenever we are talking, he mostly looks at my eyes, but a few times he looked at my lips, which kind of made me paranoid that I had something my teeth.

No, if he's looking at your lips, it's more likely he wants to kiss them.  If you have something in your teeth, as a friend he would surely just tell you.

All these signs makes me think he likes me more than a friend, but since I know him well, I know that is a generally friendly guy to those he is close with, also I know what type of girls he likes and the fact that he wouldn't date a co-worker or someone who is several years older than him. I clarified this when we were having dinner with another two friends one evening, where one friend got abit curious and asked him whether he would date one of our work colleagues that he is quite close with, and he mentioned that if she was older then maybe he would.

Intriguing, was that a hint.

Another factor which made me question whether he is attracted to me was how he would hardly phone me, unless he needs to ask something, in which he would call me first. Whenever we text, I always wrote long texts, whereas he would reply me with minimum words.

Men prefer to speak to women in person, they are less than impressed by having conversations on the phone or even texting sessions.  Guys like to talk about things face to face and the only time they tend to prefer to text or phone, is when they think you are not going to like what they have to say.  If he talks about everything on the phone or by text, he's not going to have anything to say when you meet up.  He also prefers to concentrate on one thing at once, if he's busy cooking himself lunch, he doesn't want  someone distracting him on the phone from cooking lunch or doing other jobs.

Recently, I have found another job, and it was always me that made the effort of keeping in contact, however he has made the odd phonecall to tell me about his new job too, but sometimes we can go without contact for a week or two. At times I feel like he is really distant.

I'm pretty neutral about all this, he has made the odd phonecall, so maybe he just doesn't have anything to say to you most of the time or even that he wants to speak with you in person. 

I am wondering whether he has feelings but doesn't want to go further, or that he is just a flirty guy.

I think you need to get more contact with him outside of work, you need more information that he likes you in that way.  I would say I'm pretty neutral about whether he fancies you.

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