My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years now and he is the MOST PROCRASTINATING man I have EVER met. I feel like he started our relationship upon false pretenses. Dont get me wrong, he is the best boyfriend. But it takes everything but kicking him in the ass to get started on a project!

I don't know what type of projects you mean or how long it takes him to get started.  But men like to be organised and tend to like to do things at their own pace.  If a project is going to take 2 months, he doesn't want to start it if he's got something else important to do in those two months.  When you ask him (calmly and in a non-confrontational way), he will usually give an honest reason in his head for not starting.  For example my sister's getting married next month, so I need to concentrate on that, I am having an exhausting time at work at the moment. 

Sometimes if he doesn't feel as though he's good enough at the job he will also put things off.  For example you want him to do some decorating but he's not good at doing the decorating.  He will put it off because he doesn't want to seem a failure and will hope you forget about it.  In other instances he might be extremely busy at work and be suffering from exhaustation, again he will not feel like starting on projects. 

If he delays all projects this suggests the possibility of several things.  He's not one of those organised, motivated people or he could be depressed or he could just be plain lazy or he could be just not that devoted to your relationship, so there's not enough motivation there for him.  Usually laziness doesn't usually come into it, it's usually another very good reason, but sometimes he won't tell you the real reason, like he feels unable to do it.  Men hate admitting defeat.  Since you haven't give me much detail, I think only you can decide what it is that stops him from doing projects. 

I certainly wouldn't say that every guy who delays doing projects, started the relationship under false pretenses.  Most guys in their own mind believe they have good reason not to start projects.

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